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    • Thank You For Holding

      Posted at 3:12 pm by kayewer, on June 21, 2025

      There’s a lot of preparation involved in going on vacation. When you travel far from home, you are actually uprooting your life in one place and temporarily setting it up in another place. Your home patiently waits for you while the power sits unused, your water stagnates in the pipes, the devices begin gathering dust on your counters, and the landscaping prays for rain.

      Meanwhile, you are transporting an array of stuff from one place to another so you will be able to live comfortably in a new location for a few days. Some of the stuff is essential, such as your toiletries, clothing, bedding and little Billy’s favorite stuffed animal. Others are short-term items such as bug repellant, suntan supplies, adaptive footwear and games for the kids unrelated to charging a device.

      Hopefully your vacation requires car travel, because heaven knows the luggage fees in airports these days prohibit most of the stuff you would easily pack in the car. As it is, stuffing your vehicle for a vacation trip is what playing Tetris has trained you for. You can cram a week’s worth of stuff into the minimal hatch space in a small SUV and have room to add Billy’s second favorite stuffed animal.

      Then there is the process of putting regular life on hold. In the olden days (about two decades ago), you would put vacation holds on newspaper deliveries and mail. Today the news is offered online, so your main concern is postal deliveries and online packages.

      I had stopped ordering things for delivery in May for my June vacation, hoping I would get everything before I left. It didn’t work. One package took over four weeks to process and deliver (right after I had departed and held the mail), and the second was delayed and ultimately lost in customs partly due to the tariff-related holds, so I received an email before my vacation ended, asking if I wanted a replacement order. Yes, please. At least I will be home to receive it. In July sometime.

      Bills, unfortunately, don’t wait for anybody, so while you’re away on vacation, payments become due while you’re buying souvenirs and eating dinner out. The bill next month is always a groaner. The food bill from eating out on a credit card goes up incrementally to how much vacation weight you gain.

      Weather can also be unpredictable. You could experience a cataclysm at home while your vacation destination is sunny and mild. On the other hand, you could pick a vacation week in which storms occur every day for the whole week. That happened to us once. Yes, we left early and got a refund.

      The decision to go away on vacation doesn’t mean that life is on hold. It’s still the same, just in unfamiliar surroundings. You may vacation in a dry town or one without a 24-hour pharmacy. The kids still want fast food, and vacationers who are used to their own cuisine at home may find a lack of places to shop for familiar edibles. However, you will be exposed to a new kind of local cuisine all around you.

      You’ll encounter “resort pricing” and unfamiliar sales taxes. What passes as “soda” in your town may be “pop” in another. You may have difficulty finding cable channels, or the banks may have unfamiliar origins. To the locals, it’s a part of life, and you’re just passing through it.

      Fortunately for me, I did not vacation far from home, so there was little cultural shock. I did my best to not be a disreputable tourist, shopped local, paid my share of tips and taxes, and left with all my physical and emotional baggage neatly packed in the back of my vehicle.

      And no, I didn’t pack a favorite stuffed animal.

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    • Perfectly Terrible Ordeal

      Posted at 9:00 pm by kayewer, on November 30, 2024

      Did you know that Americans admitted to not using about half of their paid time off? In 2018 alone, figures indicate that workers surrendered 768 million days of PTO* (that’s collective among all workers, naturally). and in 2022, 9.5 days on average per worker were left unclaimed.

      When I see commercials on television, the people in them are on vacation, kayaking down rivers and driving reliably tricked-out SUVs up rocky terrain, not rushing to company buildings or working from home. So which is it?

      Sure we’re mostly working from home now, so that should reduce some of the stress from our lives. Perhaps. But we Americans have some sort of masochistic work ethic which forbids us enjoying the adventures of life in favor of the drudgery of reports, remembering to unmute at meetings, being gracious in the face of customer abuse and the uncertainty of fluctuating corporate status.

      Other countries offer generous holidays and time off incentives, and the workers take them. They can spend several days on holiday at the beach or in the country. They don’t even need to travel far from where they are in most cases. Our country is humongous, so we fly or take trains to many major vacation destinations. The last big vacation I took involved more flying than vacationing crossing time zones. I arrived exhausted and spent my returning day mostly in the air and awaiting connections. Returning to work seemed a treat after that.

      What did I just say?

      Full-time workers have five days on and two days off, and on a holiday they are so overwhelmed with everything related to the event itself that there is no time to relax or enjoy the time given that isn’t PTO. It’s a mysterious phenomenon, possibly related to Stockholm Syndrome (in which victims become more attached to those holding them captive) or some dependency disorder to which we have no answers.

      The Monday (or Tuesday) after a holiday is usually torture for workers because of all the catching up required. So holidays become synonymous with the upcoming negativity, making the desire to willlingly subject oneself to it less palatable, and possibly carrying over that same guilt to PTO.

      Of course, we’re not better off working without time off, but the best thing we can do is make the best of the time we are given and take it for all it’s worth. That means, take the PTO. Stay at home, wear the same outfit for three days in a row and let the den degrade into a troll cave. We owe it to ourselves to enjoy freedom when it’s offered to us.

      And no trips to Stockholm.

      *(Source: Zippia.com)

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    • Taking a Week Staycation

      Posted at 4:08 am by kayewer, on November 9, 2014

      My job lets me accrue time off every payday. The problem with me, like a large number of Americans, is that I don’t use it. Other countries get lots of time off and they don’t feel as if they have had enough: we keep our noses to the grindstone so long we don’t even have nasal cavities left.

      Once before I saved up a lot of time, when I was in the Navy. I had a whole month of time off on the books. They know you have to take it, but they don’t order you to go home and relax and not come back until your balance is down. Same thing in the civilian workplace.

      Until recently, accrual was the norm. Now they want you to keep only a maximum number of hours and, if you hit your cap, you earn no more until you take some off. This means either going home and relaxing or selling your time back at a 50 percent reduction. You know most folks, unless the bill collector is at the door, will take the time off.

      So I’ve used a bit of vacation lately, a day or week at a time. I don’t go anywhere. It can be nice to not try to cram housekeeping and shopping into two or three hours in the evening or wait until the weekend. I can stop staring at the chore list, because I have nine whole days to decide when I want to do things. I love food shopping when there are no lines and I can put paper in plastic at my own pace.

      Since I don’t go anywhere, I also don’t wind up needing another week of vacation to recover from the vacation. No suitcases to unpack and laundry to do, no bills that are going to pile up and bring the bill collector to the door.

      I do have a vacation bucket list I hope to get to before I get too old to enjoy going places. Home, however, can be just as nice as any pre-packaged tourist trap. Since I live close to Philadelphia, I could just play tourist and see the sights there if I want to.

      Have you ever worked in an office so near a shopping center or city shopping district you could hear your credit cards squealing with glee, but you couldn’t get there because your lunch was too short, or the rush hour traffic too messy to try to get there yourself? Go on vacation and hit that mall, honey. And just think: you don’t have to go back to cubicle hell after lunch.  You can eat lunch in the food court.

      But what am I posting this for? I’m on vacation. See you next time.

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