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Susan's Scribblings the Blog
  • Who the Heck is Kayewer?
  • Tag: fashion

    • A Large Problem

      Posted at 9:04 pm by kayewer, on February 22, 2025

      The obesity problem is real, and trying to look your best when your body proportions are off the chart is challenging as well as depressing. I have several favorite clothing brands, and even they are not always consistent with sizes and availability. My research shows why.

      The major grey area in clothing sizes starts after the typical Small, Medium, and Large. Some clothing manufacturers size only up to what is known as Extra-Large, or XL. Others offer Plus sizes starting with 1X. So, what is the difference between XL and 1X?

      Men’s clothing may come in XL, while womens may be labeled 1X, but generally 1X accommodates a 38-40″ waist for women. Men’s size XL may indicate a smaller 35-36″ waist. The magic number is 36 for men.

      This may explain why clothing sales exhaust supplies of 1X before XL. I have frequently scoured clearance racks for Plus sizes and found only XL or 2X and 3X available more readily than 1X. One is snug, the other roomier.

      Clothing from Torrid, a great choice in larger sizes, start at about size 12 and then include unique labels of 0, 1, 2 and 3 for Plus sizes. They offer jeans which cover a three-size range: they sell out quickly.

      In a world where low numbers can be part of social status (remember there is a size zero out there for those skinny enough to be considered no size at all–just kidding), saying you’re a size zero when you’re Plus-sized is exciting. Frankly, I can’t imagine anybody asking a person to reveal their clothing size, or even the brand label on their clothing. We are not, after all, a number or a business entity emblazoned on a piece of merchandise; we are human beings, each with a unique history and a unique body. We want to feel good when we dress in the morning, and whatever works should be of good quality and fit well. Checking the differences in each is the best answer, whether it’s in a sizing guide or the fitting room.

      If the size fits, wear it. Proudly.

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    • Unmasked

      Posted at 2:07 pm by kayewer, on February 10, 2024

      I recently read an article about Pamela Anderson, the gorgeous star of Baywatch who was the dream of every male and the envy of many females. She had a shapely body, a captivating face and talent to go with it. And naturally, like most women who are public figures, she wore makeup. Lots of it.

      Recently she opted to go without makeup, appearing during Paris’ famous Fashion Week with the face she was born with. Some people were aghast.

      The same thing happened years ago when Oprah Winfrey did a show with her entire audience deciding to come clean. Some of the attendees did appear rather uncomfortable. Oprah went facial commando for magazine covers as well.

      I don’t know when we decided that our faces are not fit to be seen in public without makeup, but the trend is starting to trickle down to tween children ten years old and younger. Check out the Ulta Kids articles to see what a mess it has become, with children buying anti-aging products–which are aimed at adults more than twice their ages–and leaving samplers and actual opened and discarded products in their destructive wake.

      Even the trend on social media seems to include a makeup tutorial by any woman posting details of her personal life. I’ve watched clips with a mixture of fascination and shock as ladies talk about their cheating boyfriend or boss from Hell as they dab seemingly too-dark highlights onto their facial curves with funky shaped applicators, and turn their eyelashes into lengthy, dark broom bristles sharp enough to take out a boyfriend’s eyeball if kissing gets too close.

      My luck with makeup has been difficult. I was often too light for the lightest shade of foundation. At modeling school, my attempts at pancake application left arid desert cracks on my cheeks (again, a shade or two too dark). Add to that a lifetime of fighting severe acne, and it was nearly impossible to make my face look as if I were not trying to banish pimples under several layers of tinted grease. For most of my working life, I’ve gone facial commando except for brows and lipstick, and my face seems to be grateful for the lack of over-attention.

      Pamela Anderson is in her mid-50s now, and she looks spectacular with just her face showing. She has said that she wants to emotionally stabilize her own perceptions of who she is; having been a model for Playboy and a television icon beside such talents as David Hasselhoff (who, by the way, probably did not require much in the line of makeup on set: men nearly never do), as well as the focus of a scandal when somebody leaked and tried to capitalize on a private intimate video of her sans makeup and clothing, she deserves to be in touch with herself as the person who has a life outside what beauty perceives us to have. Katie Couric and Justine Bateman have also climbed aboard the natural face train.

      Maybe we should all do that. Are we a sculpted painting of a hollow cheekbone, or do we have souls and thoughts and feelings that work just as well without the pricey plaster on our faces? There is also the stress we place on our skin as we manipulate the stuff onto our cheeks and tug at our tendons and muscles blending in this contour and that flawless matte of skintone. That ultimately leads to wrinkles, and the makeup companies are ready for us with those anti-aging creams the tweens are going Karen over in the Ulta stores.

      Leave your face alone. Let it be the canvas of your life. Enjoy the smile wrinkles and accept when you earn those age lines.

      I see my face in the morning, and I see that my soul is intact. I have nothing to hide.

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    • And Her Shoes Were #9

      Posted at 2:14 pm by kayewer, on February 3, 2024

      Feet are possibly the most overlooked but important part of the human anatomy. Because we walk on them, play sports with them and sometimes gauge our health by them, we often are reminded to be kind to our feet when they complain to us.

      After nearly four years of working from home, many people’s feet have become accustomed to not being in shoes, and this has come back to annoy us in the form of pain when we try to jam them into shoes.

      Last summer I dealt with the consequences of too many days in slipper-shod feet when a favorite pair of sandals betrayed me on the first day of vacation. I was at the shore and needed to pick up the keys to my home for the week, but parking was already becoming difficult, and I had just found a sweet spot near the unit I was renting. No problem, I thought; I’ll walk to the realtor and get the keys.

      I started walking the twelve blocks to the offices, when the soles of my feet began to burn. I pushed through it, got my keys and walked back, but in increasingly severe pain. By the time I got my things moved in and sat down, I removed the sandal on my right foot to find an oozing blister the size of my foot pad. The sandal’s insole was darkened from the leak that had drained onto it. Other than the footwear for the beach, I didn’t pack extra shoes. After a (painful) quick stop at the local pharmacy for blister bandages, I pushed through as the discomfort subsided. I even walked the boardwalk every day. Ultimately it took two months for the wound to heal.

      As I tried to go through my supply of footwear, I was finding that every pair seemed to irritate some part of my foot. This would never do. So, off to the shoe store I went.

      Because my feet have always been wide width, I never went to an ordinary shoe store, even as a child. If I managed to find something there, it was a treat, such as when I was able to (comfortably) wear a pair of Candies (a shoe that was a must-have in the late 1970s), or when the now-defunct Payless Shoe Source managed to stock one or two pairs I could be comfortable in.

      My go-to shoe store is an old-fashioned (by today’s standards) place in which a sales associate measures your feet, has a stockroom of lengths and widths to fit a basketball player or a baby, and the shoes they stock are top quality and meant to last.

      The sales associate measured my feet and broke the news to me: I’ve gained a size.

      It’s a fact of life that as we age, we gain sizes. Some of us gain in our guts and butts, but most also gain in the tootsies. I went from an average size and non-average width to a larger in both. And I never could play basketball.

      We tried on a pair of sneakers similar to what I wore in (and which I had bought there the prior autumn). He checked my customer history and adjusted the try-on pair up a width; they fit like a glove. A painless glove for my feet. I came home with them.

      But what about everyday nice shoes that don’t look like they belong on a basketball court? I mentioned one of the popular manufacturer’s common styles, and he brought out a pair to try on. They, too, fit beautifully in the wider size, but color-wise were designed for a formal event. The style was so popular, they were not in stock, so we ordered a pair in basic everyday black.

      So now I have the burden of going through my shoes and seeing if any can be salvaged; if not, the store has a charity bin which will ensure their use by somebody in need.

      This is how things should be: when somebody buys and then donates to somebody who needs and has no funds to buy, good shoes live on comforting somebody else’s feet. Somebody with feet that have never been on a basketball court.

      My shoe collection had been a sizeable one for when I worked in an office every day, so now I will whittle it down to just what I will need as I won’t be in a building ever again before retirement. So my army of shoes will be decimated, and their replacements will be bigger and wider.

      Just like the person walking in them.

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