Susan's Scribblings the Blog

A writer from the Philadelphia area shares the week online.
Susan's Scribblings the Blog
  • Who the Heck is Kayewer?
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    • Hooked on a Feeling

      Posted at 3:16 pm by kayewer, on April 19, 2025

      I recently resumed crocheting after a pause of several years. My first true project was a handbag I did using a pattern in one of my mother’s magazines (probably Woman’s Day). It was lined with felt and got dirty quite fast because I was a child in the late 60s, but it was my proud achievement.

      Other projects came along, such as an Easter bunny in white yarn (bleach bottle plastic kept the ears perky), a hat made from a wonderful yarn dyed to look like denim (still have it), and a few side items I attempted to knit. Later efforts included baby blankets which were, to put it lightly, a bit raw in execution but useable.

      A granny square afghan I crocheted for my mother is still at home. It was a late 1990s project I took on to make something to match the upholstery on the couch, and required buying yarn colors from memory. I would do up to two squares a day while riding to and from work on the train, and an occasional third if my lunch permitted. She was thrilled to open the package at Christmas.

      I then took on making half-day throws and managed to make countless ones for coworkers and friends. Then my family dynamic changed, and I didn’t have time for crafting. The “big return home” in 2000 didn’t nudge me to resume either, but now it’s five years later, and an event spurred me to pick up the hooks again.

      I have bins of yarns I had bought during sales from craft stores which went out of business, the latest of which is Joann Fabrics, where I bought some great quantities of yarn for what I anticipate will be a retirement filled with rows of patterns and special effects lovingly hooked with joy by my anxious hands.

      A friend of mine had her own home for some time, which had been a life-long goal for her, so I made her a throw while I was on my biggest creation kick back in the 2000s. When she moved out of the home and into a small apartment, many of her household goods went into storage bins. It turned out that, during a culling of the hoard, the throw accidentally got sent out with other charity bins for pickup. At least I know somebody else will likely be using what I made, but it left my friend without one, and she was rather embarrassed by the incident.

      She went out and did what anybody in such a situation would do. She hit up an estate sale and bought some yarn for a replacement throw. The bag contained several balls of an Italian merino in a purple colorway (a mix of several go-together colors in one), along with some solids which may have come from Michael’s, and a large skein of Red Heart. Only problem was, the main yarn was discontinued years ago, so finding enough for the project was nearly impossible if not extremely expensive. After-market buys on such rare yarns can be pricey. A listing in Etsy or eBay would have gotten me six more balls of the main colorway, along with four of another color I didn’t need, for about $80.

      So I did what anybody in such a situation would do. I got advice from a local yarn shop. They pointed me in the direction of similar types of yarn in complementary colors. I came home with freshly-balled yarn from their establishment, to add to my already yarn shop sized collection.

      Will I get an afghan or throw out of these? I’m not sure. I do know that I have plenty of colors on hand and could easily use any of them for a similar effect. I’ll need to strategize on this one. It’s venturing into a whole new territory of crocheting for me.

      I just hope these old hands can withstand the paces I will be putting them through to crank out these new projects. Wish me luck.

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    • Rated Extraneous

      Posted at 1:54 pm by kayewer, on April 13, 2025

      I just read an article about the movie ratings assigned by the motion picture industry, from the perspective of the ratings’ relevancy in today’s entertainment world.

      The original rating system was introduced in 1968 as a way to inform parents of the suitability of a movie’s contents for young children. Before that, Hollywood was under the watchful eye of the “Hays Code,” which was designed as a type of “Ten Commandments” of forbidden depictions in moviemaking. Among them were nudity (adults and children), swearing/cussing, mixed race relationships, white slavery, sexual hygiene and childbirth, racism and drugs. Oh, and the clergy couldn’t be spoken ill of, either.

      The Motion Picture Association or MPA, (which included “of America” until 2019), created the rating system we now know to make it easier to choose movies for families or adults. The challenges which reshaped the system–one of the most noted being the addition of PG-13 after the release of Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom due to some borderline violence touching the PG line in the sand–have tweaked the original four classifications. We now have five ratings (G, PG, PG-13, R and NC-17) and a variety of descriptive text to include mild, fantasy or extreme violence, language, drugs and alcohol and sexual content as means of parental guidance as to what their children may experience during the movie.

      The article points out that, unfortunately, many young people feel that the ratings system is a plot by adults to deprive them of what they conceptualize as a “better” form of entertainment. Young people will purchase a ticket for a PG-13 film, then sneak into the R-rated movie. I know from firsthand experience–not in a theatre, but watching a film on TV not suitable for me at a particular age–that this practice can be mentally damaging. In a rush to grow up, theatres are accidentally releasing rule-breaking teens sporting mental scratches and dents out into the world with a perspective they may not have been ready for, because there isn’t a system in place to make sure they “got what they paid for.”

      This came to light recently when the Terrifier franchise (known for extreme violence) released another movie this past winter and the packed houses were not always filled with age-appropriate paying customers.

      The best solution may be to keep a certain classification of movies on one side of a multiplex, so that youngsters headed in that direction would be immediately obvious. Another may be to set up a ticket scanner at the door to each auditorium which the attendee must swipe in addition to their original admission in the lobby. The door would then open for them to enter the auditorium.

      The classification system is still relevant. Children still need some protections in place to shield them from things they may not be mature enough to witness. This is a job all grown-ups take on when we come of age. It is a responsibility to the future generations and mankind in general to allow children to grow at the pace set for them by natural order, and introduce new concepts when they are ready to receive them. Our society has become so lax and liberal, that youngsters do not seem to be blocked from anything that may harm them; true crime documentary channels are not for four-year-olds. Forget that it’s cable or steaming, and remember that you control the remote.

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    • A Few Random Thoughts

      Posted at 4:34 pm by kayewer, on April 5, 2025

      After an intense rainstorm, a rainbow flag showed up in my landscaping one morning. I took it to the back yard and placed it in my garden, and a squirrel promptly broke it in half. Does this mean squirrels hate flags or LGBTQ+ people? A few other flags were spotted at other homes, including an Irish flag pinned to a bush. Whoever did this has not come forward.

      At birth and for the rest of our lives, we are given a name which identifies us. The most common way to express names here in the US is with five unique fields: the salutation field (Mr., Mrs., Dr.), the first name field (Jane, John), the middle initial field, the last name field (Jones) and the title field (MD, Jr., Sr., III). You would be amazed to find how many people don’t know how to use those fields effectively when filling out a form. I have seen first and middle names together, titles stuck onto the end of last names; once I found a name in which the person apparently tabbed or backspaced and gave themselves one letter for a last name. People also put in extra spaces after each entry, which becomes part of their name. Take a moment to look at how the information is laid out before starting the process. You can save yourself a lot of trouble.

      In that same vein, addresses are broken down as street, unit number (apartment, condo), then city, state and Zip code (with +4). Amazingly, though Zip +4 has been around since 1983, many folks don’t know what theirs is. Placing it on your personal information with any place sending you mail can make the difference between whether your delivery is sorted correctly or not. The +4 can pinpoint your location to the side of the block you are on, or the floor of your highrise apartment building. It’s easy to look up on the USPS website as well, and worth memorizing.

      While on the road the other day, I saw a tricked-out vehicle which gave me a bit of anxiety. It was a Honda with the upper portion of its tires obscured by bodywork, and the tires themselves were nearly three times the width needed. They were mounted at outward angles somehow, so that only the inner edges of each tire contacted the road. It was a relief to see it turn off the highway. Who wants to share the streets with a vehicle so potentially dangerous? How is that street legal? They must change it to pass inspection.

      Speaking of vehicle inspections, our state motor vehicle registrations no longer come on perforated documents. They must be cut to size with scissors. Does it seem too much to ask for a pop-out card?

      I had put off a task for a while and finally got around to it; synchronizing my phone to the car. Probably the easiest feat on a screen I’ve had the privilege of doing. Now if I can get my Microsoft Office to work as cooperatively as the car’s onscreen instructions. (Follow-up: when I got in my car after posting this, my screen provided an error message that my sync didn’t work, so I take back what I just posted.)

      The local mall just decided to restrict underage visitors from being on the premises without parental supervision, due to some teen fighting recently within the public areas. At least somebody is stressing that children should not be left unattended.

      My newspaper arrived encased in a plastic bag during the rain, yet it was soaking wet inside because the bag had holes in it. Reminded me of a popular meme about people in a swimming pool huddled under an umbrella while a storm passed through. That’s right: they were in the water, wet, and they held a brolly over their heads while in the pool. Defeated the purpose, right? But then so was putting a dry paper in a hole-ridden bag.

      So that was my week of brain-muddling confusion. Maybe next week will be better.

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    • Swedish Duck

      Posted at 3:52 pm by kayewer, on March 22, 2025

      Sometimes the best and most enjoyable stories are also the most strange. I recently came across an article about Sweden and their obsession with Donald Duck. The Disney rendition of a sputtering aquatic bird and comic counterpart–wearing no trousers, either–is more popular than Mickey Mouse in that country.

      Maybe it’s because Swedes prefer ducks in pleasant little ponds in any of their thirty national parks, than a mouse in any location. Eek!

      Donald is referred to as Kalle Anka (kallay ahn-kah) in Swedish, Kalle means “free man” or simply “man,” and Anka is the word for duck. So Donald Duck is a man/duck by virtue of his anthropomorphic persona and qualities. Not to be confused with Paul Anka, who sang hits like “Put Your Head on My Shoulder” and “Diana.”

      I wonder if anybody ever called Paul Anka, Paul Duck? If they did, they should’ve ducked to avoid having an object launched at their head. If said object hits the mark, put your head on my shoulder.

      But I’m getting silly. Not sillier, though, than what those wonderful folks over in Scandinavia do every Christmas Eve. At approximately three o’clock, a good half (or more) of Sweden sits in front of their big screen televisions and watches a 1958 Disney special, “From All of Us to All of You,” which we know as a Christmas compilation show hosted by Jiminy Cricket. It contains a popular Donald Duck segment entitled “Clown of the Jungle,” in which our hapless hero is driven bonkers by the antics of an Aracuan (air-a-kwan) bird while on expedition.

      Swedes apparently take this annual tradition seriously for, as one person aptly put it, “you can’t do anything else, because Sweden is closed.” Families will sit quietly and watch the program, occasionally lip-synching favorite lines and laughing, but it’s an event calling for one hundred percent attention to the screen by the entire family. No meals are prepared. Don’t bother calling friends or relatives. Everybody is watching Kalle Anka.

      This sacrosanct special is so entrenched in tradition that the viewers will not tolerate alterations or shortcuts. The show’s longest host, Arne Weise, was required by his viewing public to appear live for the program. He was forbidden to try taping the show to spend Christmas Eve with his family. He tried it. No way, Ar-nay, the viewers said. He had three divorces to show for his troubles. Also, when one time the segment on “Ferdinand” the matador-phobic bull was pulled and replaced with “The Ugly Duckling,” the outcry prevailed and the bull returned to the program at once.

      The new generation of Swedes may allow this tradition to die out, as they do not seem as attached to what could be interpreted as hokey old-school animation. The fact that Swedes first began obtaining televisions in 1959 when the program first aired on their only television network (they gained a second channel in 1969), is part of the charm of this tradition. Now that the country has a page full of networks and choices, there are plenty of other shows to watch. The programming staff are continuing to see a good turnout every December 24 and will continue to air what is affectionately called Kalle Anka for short, until they are told otherwise.

      Now, if I could write in Swedish, I would tell those folks about our annual tradition of watching a movie called A Christmas Story at least once during the holiday (if not continuously) on our Turner broadcast networks. No ducks, mice or bulls, but there are the Bumpuses’ hound dogs. We sit and lip-synch favorite lines and laugh, just like the people in Sweden. It is a small world, indeed.

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    • Dingbats and Wombats

      Posted at 3:27 pm by kayewer, on March 15, 2025

      Some people take on a variety of responsibility, or a lack of it, when they decide to become “influencers.” There are countless people boasting that title on social media, and not all of them are anywhere near as popular as our celebrities or politicians.

      For those not in the loop, an influencer is somebody who posts content on public forums in an effort to draw a particular audience and/or steer those viewers toward a particular trend or behavior, or follow them as they exhibit those same ideals. The influencer stands in front of their cell phone in Selfie mode and uses the world around them as their stage or soapbox through which they tout their agenda.

      Recently an influencer named Sam (possibly short for Samantha) Jones filmed an interaction she initiated between a mother wombat with its young and herself. She picked up the infant joey and ran with it, exclaiming, “I caught a baby wombat!” The distressed mother, naturally, gave chase, and Sam’s camera person (we’re unsure if she merited the extra person or it’s a friend or relative) is heard saying, “. . . .the mother (is) chasing after her.” Sam then returned across the road and released the joey to reunite with the mother.

      She has since issued a statement saying that she was actually rescuing the joey and mother from the road to avoid being hit by passing cars, none of which is corroborated in the way she was acting in the video. No words or actions from her captured on camera indicated she was on any type of rescue mission other than that of her popularity numbers. She quickly left Australia after overwhelming backlash and negative publicity from people around the world.

      It sounds like she was more of an influencer for bad than good.

      Her misbehavior has added another checkmark in the negative column in the eyes of the world, as the reputation of Americans in general has been in decline. Our snootiness and entitlement agenda, as well as our lack of common courtesy, is making our appearance in many countries akin to an invasion of locusts.

      Our freedoms, so flippantly taken for granted, are often well beyond what other countries tolerate, which is why tourists from America are so easily recognized in the wilds of travelers’ meccas everywhere. We don’t understand courtesy, dress codes, pedestrian rules, restaurant etiquette, or even how to treat employees at service facilities like actual human beings. We choose instead to be blissfully ignorant and pay no attention to what is happening around us when we are in a different place. We don’t know how to read a room, let alone how to appreciate another country’s scenery.

      Also, other countries have residents. People have daily jobs to go to. Children go to school. And yes, animals are in their natural habitat, and you are a visitor. If you respect the space you are in, don’t interfere with daily activities, leave the wildlife alone and put your trash where it belongs, you can take a major step in being appreciated by the locals. This matters, from the people sharing the corner waiting for the light to change to the hotel staff and public servants at the buildings and transit hubs. Be courteous.

      We don’t try other languages, either. Many countries have a go at English, but would they hold their own in our country? Probably not, but they will make the effort. We should do the same when we go elsewhere. Find out what words are taboo in the place you’ll visit, and make sure that if you use those, be conscious of that flaw and try not to embarrass yourself. Learn some basics such as “Thank You” in your host country’s language.

      Another way to make yourself out as a fool is to disrespect monuments and memorials. Some tourist destinations are somber places, so don’t treat it as a photo op for a selfie of you making faces where people sacrificed their lives. Show respect. And I can’t stress enough; take your trash to the proper place.

      Be quiet when people around you are quiet. Public transit may have quiet cars on trains, or talking loudly may be frowned upon on busses. Keep your music to yourself as well.

      As you use your device to record things around you, have common sense. Avoid situations which may be dangerous or draw negative attention. Most of us are just normal people with cell phones. Don’t be a bad influence. Or a worse influencer.

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    • (Re)Union Dues?

      Posted at 3:40 pm by kayewer, on March 8, 2025

      I have never been to any of my high school reunions, and in my opinion it may be a tradition best left to end its time and go peacefully into the annals of nostalgia. Especially with social media and live chat options, there is no need for folks of any age to travel unnecessarily for an event requiring stays in hotels of uncertain quality (if not camping out in your old bedroom at your parents’ place). Also, do you want to spend days eating at joints which sprang up well after your favorite hangouts in town went belly up? And what about the expense of carting your personal human circle along with you (especially if they did not attend your alma mater and won’t know a soul).

      The five-year reunion, overall, seems to be an opportunity to brag about graduating college, or marrying the love of your life and/or delivering the two kids you said you would in the yearbook. At ten and twenty years, most people have set up their lives and mingle with a tightly controlled group of friends, and they may attend just to sit around and grab a drink or two while reminiscing about old flames, older scandals, the ignorance of youth and the disaster that is approaching three or four decades of existence.

      At the thirty, forty and fifty year marks, people are starting to experience the added pains of age, loss and empty nests. Yes, we go through with it, and yes we all share talking about it. Why pay airfare and hotel fees to do that when you can get together in Zoom for pennies on the already-strained dollar?

      And then there are reunions from Hell like the one a writer referred to as “Really Invisible in Minnesota” experienced in Dear Abby’s March 6, 2025 column. She attended her fiftieth with her husband, both of whom went to the same school. They share this tradition every time, and at every reunion she has the same problem: everybody in her graduating class acts cordially to the husband, but they treat her like a leper. “I’ll be the first to admit I’m nothing to look at,” Really Invisible felt compelled to add, and we soon find out why: her classmates would glare and walk away whenever she attempted to be sociable. She even overheard one approach another group and say, “The dog tried to talk to me.”

      The husband is also, according to her letter, a real humdinger of a supportive spouse, one for whom social media women’s advocate Robbie Harvey would have a few choice words. When she confronted him about her mistreatment and wanted to know why he even married her, he gaslit her, saying, “It’s all in your head.”

      These are all supposedly mature adults in their 60s! What on God’s green Earth is wrong with them?

      I have been too hardened by this sort of thing to outwardly cry, but inside of me, while reading this, my heart broke for this unfortunate lady. She said nothing of whether her marriage is loving or even affirming of her self-worth, but the evidence says otherwise. Why would everybody be (and over fifty years, have been) so vicious to this individual?

      What is the husband gaining from being married to her? Why do the classmates feel it’s acceptable to continue to call a human being a “dog” because of what is obviously a combination of genetic outliers beyond her control? And what sort of horrific conspiracy is going on that nobody feels compelled to say one kind word about this poor woman?

      Really Invisible will remain anonymous, as will her tormentors, all of whom I feel should be utterly ashamed of their behavior, lack of basic human kindness and hypocritical demeanor (Abby agreed). I would enjoy getting answers from the perpetrators as to why their treatment of Really Invisible is warranted (it would make a great research story), and I would like to hear from the husband on why he doesn’t tend to the emotional and spiritual needs of the wife he chose to marry, and why he need not hold up to his responsibility to her. Unfortunately that sort of thing doesn’t happen in real life very often.

      So I will close with this to those reunion dolts and that pathetic excuse of a spouse. As we go through our later years, we often find ourselves in turmoil and experiencing pain and suffering through events happening around us that directly affect our lives. Occasionally we ask ourselves, “What have I done to deserve this?” The answer is right here in this column. What you do with that knowledge is up to you.

      Really Invisible is owed a huge apology by every one of you. She has a good soul. Yours needs fixing.

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    • Opinion Page

      Posted at 5:55 pm by kayewer, on March 1, 2025

      Wouldn’t it be a strange world if the only opinion that mattered was your own? It may seem perfect to you, because you would no longer become upset by a different point of view.

      Imagine, though, how difficult it would be to find one person who was exactly like you in every idea, concept, and span of knowledge. It’s impossible to do, because every human being has a different story and, therefore, different opinions on everything.

      Often we want to destroy or alter opinions which are not our own. From the earliest days of man, when people dared to call the world round and germs visible only with enlarging technology an important part of our lives, to today’s polarizing protests and fearmongering about defining what we are, believe, say, or do, there has always been room for two opposing ideas. It took a lot of growing and compromising to get there, however.

      In her school days, my mother, a National Honor Society member, presented a report with a brown and turquoise book cover. She received points off. Nobody uses brown and turquoise together, the teacher said. The rule must have been written in stone somewhere.

      I, too, have been blasted for having opinions all my life, and so has everybody else. Sometimes, however, the things we’re criticized for have little overall effect and can be rather silly. When I was a kid, for example, one of my favorite breakfast leftovers was hamburger and gravy on a soft slice of white bread; when I presented that idea for a theme on what we ate in the morning, my teacher acted as if I had said strychnine. Just because she never had dinner leftovers for breakfast, nobody else could have them, either. So said she, so it was, at least back then, written in stone. I got points off.

      Remember that beer commercial in which the two sides argued, “Tastes great,” and “Less filling?” Until they came out with an ad that clarified it had both attributes, it was a pop culture argument with no true winner, and that can be frustrating. Perhaps there are no “winners,” but simply “compromises.”

      Nobody has the exact same opinion on everything, which is what gives us individuality of character. Often our differences are meaningless, such as people from South Jersey calling a certain spicy meat product Taylor’s Pork Roll, while in North Jersey it’s called Taylor Ham (true story). A hoagie is a sub in some places. Soda is pop or tonic. These are small things which do not have an effect on daily life. Both camps live harmoniously.

      When we delve into politics or social issues, however, the arguments become chaotic or even violent when opinions differ. When it comes to human life in particular, sometimes people are in favor of everybody suffering collectively. They don’t offer good reasons or even compassion or financial help: everybody simply must get in the pool of misery and keep quiet about it.

      Politics is a slippery course to wade through, because those in favor of one party often act as if those on the other side are all evildoers deserving of annihilation. Remember, the only people who belong are those who are exactly the same as you.

      So today I was hoisted up for a shaming session because my opinion wasn’t the same as a celebrity’s. Shame on me. At least the argument was not over pork roll or ham. Also, I didn’t say the person was wrong; just that my experience was different. We can all get along and still not agree.

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    • The Old Book Story

      Posted at 1:22 pm by kayewer, on February 23, 2025

      (Originally Published May 12, 2019)

      The Argosy Book Store in New York City is an established piece of the city’s history, dating back to 1925. I decided to take the plunge and visit the store for the first time while I was in the city yesterday. I had both Argosy and the Strand (which opened elsewhere in the city two years later) on my city trip bucket list, so with time to kill before my date with a cushy opera seat at Lincoln Center, I weighed my choices. Somebody had been very helpful in getting me the info for the Strand, but since it was some twenty blocks in the opposite direction from my destination, I knew my feet would not take the abuse, and taxis unlikely at that time of day. I walked instead to the Argosy, hoping to enjoy some slow time with some old books.

      The place is designed much like a delightful old shoppe, smelling wonderfully of ancient paper in the muted light. On the shelves were old and more modern bound books of all sorts. Seeing Shakespeare occupying several shelves, I stopped to take a look and wondered about the cost of some future presents for my bookworm friends.

      Meanwhile, a drama was unfolding at a nearby desk, where a worker was contacting a shipper (a major one whose name I will not mention here) to find out why a promised on-time delivery did not happen. A customer had requested a special book for a Saturday occasion, and it never arrived, she learned, because in spite of instructions to the contrary, they waited to get a signature for the delivery. The worker informed the shipper that it was the store reputation which was suffering for their error, and I nodded to myself that this was a merchant who thrived on doing things the right way. She was quite infuriated by the problem, but kept her composure on the phone, another mark of professionalism.

      However, my shopping trip was now less important amid the chaos in the store. Nobody asked if I wanted assistance, and I figured that my timing was just wrong. I left with nothing, but will return.

      Meanwhile, the Strand is having an identity crisis because of a possible designation as a city landmark, which the owners might not want. They claim to have “18 miles of books.” and is an icon of the Washington Square area, while Argosy is just a brisk walk away from Central Park.

      And in Long Island, Amazon is coming, may the book gods help us all.

      There is a big difference between old books in an Indiana Jones-style warehouse, and an actual store one can walk into and breathe in the life between those aged pages. Commerce isn’t what it used to be, but bookstores like the Argosy and the Strand should stand forever.

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    • The Horrible Cleansing

      Posted at 1:21 pm by kayewer, on February 23, 2025

      (Originally Published August 05, 2018)

      Many people dread rain, particularly storms of the kind we have been experiencing recently. Rivers crest well past their usual flood stage, storm drains are taxed, and we often find water outside their appointed containment zones. However, the natural world seems to have an idea of what to do when things get out of hand, and the elements of fire and water often purge and cleanse in ways we may never understand.

      This doesn’t mean that I support massive flooding or wildfires, nor the casualties they cause, but we must also realize that we don’t belong everywhere that a house rises, just because somebody builds it there. People have lived in toxic waste areas and at the feet of potential volcanoes and floods for ages, though, and we’re not likely to build our lives upward, but simply continue to spread outward. With that spread comes the chance of disaster. We have seen it happen in the East, and right now Hawai’i is being reshaped by the fiery lava from a volcano.

      In the aftermath of fire often comes rebirth as the first fir trees sprout from the ashes. It is as if nature pushes for a fast recovery. Water, on the other hand, does not consume but simply piles its carried waste along until it lands someplace and has to be dealt with. A museum has on display the findings collected from the Johnstown Flood of 1889, showing how the devastation took over 2,200 lives and destroyed the town. If one were asked which is worse–fire or flood–many would be hard-pressed to choose.

      At the end of rain, though, does come a cleansing; a washing away of all the filth that we have created on the ground. I feel safer walking on sidewalks after a rain, because I like to think that whatever spit people planted on the pavements is gone for a short while, but really it is a chance to see a clean space. Something we don’t see very much anymore.

      Some places still embrace sweeping the sidewalks early in the morning, in case nature doesn’t do it for them. If it didn’t see so ludicrous or hopeless, I would walk around with a broom and do it myself. At least until we all stop making such a mess between storms.

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    • School Wisdom

      Posted at 1:20 pm by kayewer, on February 23, 2025

      (Originally Published September 03, 2017)

      Take it from somebody who has been there: if you get to school and wind up getting bullied, it’s not about you, but them. I lived through some powerful antagonism when I was in school, and my future came out okay.

      School is not really about who you are now, but what you need to build now to be better later. The truth is that you are all learning together, and you rise or fall differently all the time. Some days you sail through everything, but the next day nothing is right, and you may wind up walking through those doors and finding everybody else seems to be up while you’re down. It’s okay. It happens that way. Just heave a sigh and make it through one day, and the next day will change. It always does.

      The bullies always make it seem as if they are in the know and you are not. How do they know anything? Did they take a smart pill? Are they on a fast track to rushing through life without knowing what they’re doing? You’re all on the same track, but while some folks know some things about a lot of things, others know a lot about one or two things. That’s all okay: that’s what makes us individuals.

      Somebody may pick on you and say you’re ugly. The truth is, they’re probably feeling kind of ugly, and that is scary for everybody your age. You’re all changing so fast, it’s hard to look great every day, but your folks still make you go to school. So you woke up on the right side of the bed that morning, and they didn’t, or vice versa. They have the issues, not you.

      They may hate your clothes, or your accessories, because theirs are “better,” but that’s their opinion. Clothes get outgrown, break zippers or get stains that don’t come out, whether they cost $10.99 or $1,099.00. The difference is that you can replace the $10.99 ones easier, and the folks who spend $1,099.00 are simply broker faster.

      When a bully picks on something about you, have you ever noticed that they look a little nervous or scared? That’s because they’re having issues, and they’re taking it out on you. They don’t know you, or why you are yourself and not like them. They wonder if what you are is okay, just like they wonder if what they are is okay. Insecurity is part of anger, and it’s powerful. You really have nothing to do with their problems. They never come out and offer you a way to get their better clothes or accessories or beauty secrets to lend you a hand up to where they are in their lofty superiority, do they? So it’s not about that at all. They will get where they need to be, and it won’t be because they had to walk over you to get there, but because they applied themselves, just as you will.

      It’s been a long time since I got out of school, and some of the people who were bound to come out this way or that are nowhere to be found today. They’re not on magazine covers, that’s for sure. That’s because it’s all just about building yourself when you’re in school. When it’s over, you’ll be moving on to better things. Don’t pay the bullies any mind. We all get where we are destined to go, in much the same way. Your parents will tell you about the school bullies, the nerds, the unpopular ones, the beauties and the wallflowers they knew. This has gone on for ages. The bad ones get theirs, and the good ones still reach their goals.

      You won’t be this version of you forever. Look at the goal; that’s nothing to be afraid of.

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