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    • Suppose They Held a Life. . . .

      Posted at 1:52 am by kayewer, on October 31, 2010

      You know the rest of this modified phrase, which is commonly given as  “suppose they gave a war and nobody came?” but it gets modified to suit new purposes.  Well sometimes people come into this world with the same expectations as everybody else, but even though they may not be undesirable folk like tyrants or mass murderers, they go through existence largely unnoticed.

      I’d like to take a few minutes to remedy that.

      Here’s to you, just because you exist.  You may not have come into the best world possible.  People made mistakes with you, and you’ve made a few that affected others.  Maybe somebody has abused you, or maybe somebody overindulged you.  You may have had a cookie cutter education, or maybe the teachers didn’t know why you didn’t “get it.”  You may have been married three times or not at all.  You may know folks better off or worse off than you.  You may be having some trying times right now, or things may be bright and sunny.

      Whether you’re the greatest or most despised person alive, you are just that:   a person who is alive.  Your existence is part of this world as it is right now, and you are being counted.  You matter.

      Do one thing for me, a lowly existing person:  remember that others matter too.

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    • Hallowed-ween

      Posted at 12:37 am by kayewer, on October 25, 2010

      So Halloween falls on a Sunday this year.  I don’t think the goodness of church cancels out the “evil” of the spooks and specters or vice versa, but it does throw a wrench into the trick-or-treating.  Folks go away for the weekend or, if they are home, the guys want to watch football and munch on chips and beer, not malted milk balls.

      Halloween is not what it used to be.  The television networks put on hours of good classic scare flicks, the good costumes came out of cardboard and cellophane windowed boxes, the treats came in really eatable sizes and nobody had to worry about where they were canvassing for treats because folks were trustworthy.

      Now the networks run Jason or Michael Myers on consecutive nights (because heaven knows there are enough of those sequels to last a week), costumes are pinioned to hangars, treats are “fun size” as in two seconds of fun and a lifetime of obesity, and some neighborhoods just aren’t child friendly anymore.

      Maybe it’s time to relegate the trick-or-treat part to the schools or community centers where the activities can be monitored  while everybody still has fun.   No matter when sundown begins in the fall, it gets dark fast and kids in unfamiliar garb have trouble navigating strange sidewalks and front lawns inundated with expensive gargoyles and miles of fake spider webbing.

      Halloween should be a safe and social event.  Even on Sundays.

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    • “Ring” In the New

      Posted at 2:38 am by kayewer, on October 17, 2010

      I was in New York to see the Metropolitan Opera’s new production of Richard Wagner’s Das Rheingold, the first part of his four-opera masterpiece Der Ring des Nibelungen (“The Nibelung’s Ring”).  After 20 years of what many consider the Met’s best production, the Met staff decided it was time for a change, and this new version is being debuted as part of the 2010-11 season opener.  The second in the series, Die Walkure, will premier in the spring, and the last two will debut in the 2011-2012 season.

      Change isn’t always digested well, but life cannot remain stagnant, so neither can an opera.  For the marathon operagoer, for whom seeing this production usually takes four days and about 14 hours,  it’s always interesting to see what a new director will do to a traditional story.

      The tradition is, in short, that a lowly dwarf steals gold and creates a ring which gives him world power.  The gods interfere and, in trying to prevent disaster, bring the end of their reign on themselves.  There are complications, of course, such as a curse on the ring, mortals falling in love with the wrong people, manipulation, murder and a giant who becomes a dragon just to guard the ring and the amassed treasure that goes along with it.

      The most popular adaptations keep some of the mythical elements, such as taking place in forests, but modern versions have gods in business suits or characters in outer space.  Audiences may cheer or pooh-pooh the ideas, and the Ring is one opera that can make or break a company budget.

      This production includes a major all-purpose prop:  dubbed “the machine,” the set consists of a 45-ton centerpiece that includes 24 planks which can be moved to various angles to serve as a projection screen or scenery (or both).  A touch sensitive computer program allows the actors to touch parts of the screen and cause movements on the projections.  For example, the fire god Loge produces flame effects with each step he takes on the planks.  There is a “gutter” between the machine and the edge of the stage, into which performers can move or land if they do stunts like slide down the machine’s inclines.

      The performers were all top notch and included Bryan Terfel and Stephanie Blythe as the gods, and Eric Owens as the dwarf Alberich.  At the podium is the great conductor James Levine, who celebrates 40 years conducting the Met’s magical orchestra.

      Without seeing the entire production, I reserve judgment on whether this new vision of Wagnerian culture will be a hit, but having been entranced by the Ring since childhood, I welcome the chance to see what new and magical imagery can be brought to life.  It’s what makes opera relevant in any century.

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    • The Elephant in the Room 2010: Bullying

      Posted at 1:32 am by kayewer, on October 11, 2010

      A lot of attention has been given to the subject of bullying lately. Some subjects, such as minority group rights, have taken decades or hundreds of years to come to the public’s attention.  Bullying is one such topic.  It’s something that has always existed, so why change it, some say.

      It’s been 11 years since the Columbine High School massacre (04/20/1999), and that event is considered by many to be the starting point for the discussion, but ever since human beings began congregating in groups, there have been societal rules that have included bullying as a way to classify the social hierarchy.  The question is how to deal with a problem that can isolate people for no or insignificant reasons.

      According to the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, at least half of all children are bullied during their years of schooling, and ten percent are regular victims.  The bullies and their victims ultimately end up in the world with a high school diploma in their hands and minds altered by the experience.  Adult bullies often start out as child bullies.  Adult victims can easily become prey for dating and spousal abusers.  Both have trouble keeping jobs and relationships stable.  In short, nobody wins.

      Nobody seems to know how to handle bullies or their victims.  They both need healing, but in different ways.  Until somebody addresses the roots of the problem, it will continue.

      So will this blog topic.

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    • Books on the Block

      Posted at 2:12 am by kayewer, on October 3, 2010

      I’ve just come from a book fair.  This was my first experience with sitting in the middle of the street, surrounded by tents and tables, pitching something to passers-by.  Vendor events have been around for a long time, but until you’ve been on the selling end of one, you can’t appreciate the full experience.

      We had to be at the location between 7:00 and 8:00 in the morning.  The main street would be closed at 8:30, so we did some initial setting up at curbside while our cars were still permitted in the area for unloading.  One of our trio of participants brought the chairs, and the other packed the folding table, so it was vital for both of them to be there.  I was the first to show up, carrying the non-setup ephemera, so I found our spot on the street–identified by a painted number against the median strip–and after a short wait both of the other team members pulled in and unloaded our meager setup items.  We didn’t have a big poster like the vendor next to us.  He had a seven foot airbrushed cover blow-up in a heavy pipe frame that drew the eye for blocks.  we got a standard 8 x 11 sign with our name and vendor number on it.  Unfortunately for the big poster, the breezes blew it over a few times, so the two vendors took turns sitting on guard duty keeping their main drawing card up and visible.

      We brought a decent supply of products, our receipt book (yes, cash only) and brochures.  We did manage to forget that, if customers were paying cash, we might need to give out change.  However, we were happy to give out our last dollar bills and scrounge in our change purses to accommodate them.  The customers didn’t seem to mind because it was, after all, a local event.  The folks on both sides of the display tables work at other jobs, so we don’t carry petty cash.

      The event was a success, and we did well for our first try.  We checked out the other vendors, many of whom were authors in the early stages of post-publishing bliss and anxious, as we were, for good sales.  Some did better than others, but I think most of the people there experienced some positive results.  At least we have proof that real authors, and real books, still exist, and people want to buy them.  We haven’t discussed the idea of attending other events, but if the wind is right and I have some spare ones for change, I wouldn’t shy away from another shot at being on the selling side.

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    • Sandal Sadness

      Posted at 1:26 am by kayewer, on September 26, 2010

      The company summer dress code goes away Thursday.  That means sandals will be forbidden as of Friday, along with mid-length pants and sleeveless tops.  The hosiery comes out again, along with clunky shoes.  Since it doesn’t feel like autumn quite yet, this change causes quite a few complaints.

      I finally got a pair of sandals I really like, and I’ve worn them this summer.  The toenails got painted, too, which I never did before.  Of course,  just because the toes will be hidden in shoes doesn’t mean I still can’t paint them, but what would be the point if nobody sees them but my shoes and me?

      As a woman, I’ve accepted the fact that I must suffer some discomfort when wearing shoes, because they must look nothing like one’s feet to be considered fashionable, and they never really feel good even when they’re fitted well.  Since the caveman days, the best footwear is soft buckskin, and you just can’t wear them to the office.

      Dress codes are challenged daily when office personnel feel that their naturalized American freedoms are being repressed, so I don’t know what will be done with the new open toe boots coming into fashion this year.  Will lopped-off toe caps be allowed in a non public contact office environment, or will unfortunate wearers be sent home to change into unsullied boots with pointy enclosed end pieces?

      I don’t intend to buy a pair of those trendy boots.  Trends have too short a shelf life for my wallet.  I will, however, stock up on more sandals for next May, when the toes can legally come out of hiding again.  Meanwhile it’s time to break out the clunky shoes and make Dr. Scholl’s retirement fund grow again.

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    • The Cell Phone Madness

      Posted at 1:38 am by kayewer, on September 19, 2010

      I went to the cell phone store to update my plan.  In the old days, you called the phone company and they did it all for you, but nowadays the phone is more like a Barbie:  once you get one, you spend months or years loading up on the accessories.  You also have to do it yourself.

      I must admit that my phone is for emergencies only, so over the years I’ve only had to upgrade it once, and I never worry about using up the minutes I’m allotted.  The fellow next to me at the massive eight-register counter, on the other hand, had gone over his texting and call limits, and his bill was the cost of a new television.  He didn’t seem to mind.

      Mine carried a balance, and this caused me a problem.

      There is a limit on how much of a balance one can bank on the cell phone plan.  The most cost-effective way to load minutes is by the year, so that’s what I wanted to do.  The computer, unfortunately,  wouldn’t let me do that because I would have had a few dollars more than the balance limits.

      The customer service rep was pleasant and apologized for the wait while he hashed out the problem with the headquarters office.  I wound up being in the store for about 45 minutes for what could have taken five.

      The final solution was that the phone company had to remove the amount that would have put me over the balance limit, and they will give it back to me in a few days.  Their recommendation was that I use the phone a lot between now and then.  I laughed.

      I suppose I could blame myself for not having a life, since I obviously don’t use the phone often enough to hack away at the balance, but if one uses a cell phone for emergencies only, why should the cost be so astronomical and the limits so incapacitating?  Sure there are plans for $10 a month, but this was better than that plan and I don’t feel I should have to pay for a convenience I truly need.

      Of course they won’t give me any of that money back, so I’m stuck with money I don’t use, and heaven knows what will happen next year this time.

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    • Table Tomes by the Ton

      Posted at 11:51 pm by kayewer, on September 12, 2010

      Whoever invented the “coffee table book” probably didn’t mean for them to be portable.  These days people seem to scoff at any book weighing more than a Kindle.  The over-sized hardcover book is still a part of literary and decorating culture, but obviously books that are the size of small blackboards or containing more than 1000 pages add some inconvenience to the package.

      I’m taking a class and just got my textbook.  The questions came up as soon as I walked in the door from work:  how many books did you order?  When my reply was one, there was doubt.  As I picked it up to release it from the usual Amazon sparingly effective packaging, I realized I had a heavy one, weighing somewhere in the range of a bowling ball (I used to use an eight pounder).  Taking it to the bathroom scale, I found that the textbook weighed nine pounds.

      So I have to attend classes each week toting the equivalent of a hefty newborn.  Maybe I should have bought two, so both arms could get a workout.  I always use totes rather than backpacks,  and probably in this case that is a good idea:  can you imagine the spinal agony I’d be courting if I dropped this literary piece of lead into a backpack?

      I hope we use every one of the 2,000 pages in this literary behemoth.  I’ll be 2,000 pages smarter and, with the workout, maybe 20 pounds lighter.

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    • A Relaxing Drive

      Posted at 1:08 am by kayewer, on September 5, 2010

      The problems with the I-295 construction aren’t in the repair work itself, but in the people driving through it.  Miles of the major highway through New Jersey have been blocked off and squeezed in for repaving and other repairs continuing into 2012.  The posted speed limit is 45 in most of the construction zones; outside it’s a harrowing 65.

      People, however, pay little heed to signs.  Since the police can’t do an effective job at stopping the masses of law breakers (how could they get into a lane to chase down somebody in a five-mile construction zone with no pulloff zones?), cars and trucks zoom through tight two-lane work areas at various speeds, and none under the posted one.  Even the truckers, who should know better, make commuting a death-defying feat.  On one memorable trip, a semi ahead of me in the right lane actually scraped the guardrails, and the smell and sounds of abused metal filled the cabin of my car.  The rails had only been in service about two months, and already they look 20 years old.

      Yesterday, however, I had the most enjoyable trip using I-295.  Not only could I stay under 45 in the construction zone, but I also barely nudged my speed past 55-60 the rest of the way.  The difference was the lack of rush hour traffic at the start of a holiday weekend.  Sure, just about everybody passed me, because well established habits don’t get broken easily, but I was happy for a break from the stress of the Indy 500 in disguise.

      I do feel for the commuters who hate driving the road on any day of the week.  I also feel for the officers who really should be allowed to put pace cars in front of the traffic to get it down to a reasonable speed.  I doubt anybody will consciously slow their cars down when the unpredictability of construction is putting such a measurable damper on the timing of their trips from day to day, but the only way to control what is out there is to set the example.  As long as everybody goes along, nobody will have the benefit of a relaxing drive on a major highway, with or without construction.

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    • Man’s Inhumanity

      Posted at 1:34 am by kayewer, on August 29, 2010

      Why do we, as human beings, always manage to justify behavior in ourselves that we condemn in others?  Why is it so convenient to cast one human or an entire group of humans aside?  It doesn’t matter if you’re on the rejector or rejectee side:  at various times in your life, you will find yourself on both of them.

      Insecurity is a strong motivator, and anybody from the schoolhouse bully to the radical extremist is proof of that.  The problem is this:  if your ideas are so good, it would be easy to attract followers, but if you have to frighten people or kill to get your point across, it might be time to rethink the idea.

      Religions like Christianity and Islam don’t base their principles on killing the non-believers, but on the idea that if one shows by example that it is good to be what you are, then others will want to be part of it also.

      Of course there are those who don’t feel that way; kill all the folks who are different and they think that all who will be left are the best people.  No two people are exactly alike, so unfortunately the only way to get such a Utopian world is to clone one perfect person millions of times and replace everybody with clones.  Scientifically that won’t happen.  Ethically that’s wrong, and morally how could we decide whom to replicate, and could we do that at the expense of our own lives?  Finally, in reality, nobody wants the world to be that boring.

      Sure there will always be people out there who just want to annihilate others so they can feel a little better.  There will always be bullies, radicals, and a pecking order.  At least until we recognize within ourselves that it’s wrong to perpetuate them just because they have always existed.

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