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    • Hair is a Story

      Posted at 3:10 am by kayewer, on September 8, 2013

      I took my mother to a hair appointment, and in the adjoining chair was a youngster getting his first haircut.  His mother and sprightly younger sister of, I would guess, four years of age, was gamely watching along with the proud father.  The mother took the chair and sat her son with her.  He didn’t wriggle too much at all, nor did he cry.  By the end of the event he was quite a handsome fellow, bound to break hearts in daycare.

      Looking at my mother in the other chair, having her white and fragile tresses combed out, I saw time passing between two souls: one getting the first haircut while the other experiences from appointment to appointment what may be the last before passing into an existence beyond rollers and sprays and gaily appointed pneumatic styling chairs.

      Simple moments such as these are what make daily life more poignant.

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    • What a Pill

      Posted at 2:56 am by kayewer, on August 25, 2013

      Ordering prescriptions isn’t what it used to be.  Between phone calls to the mail order service, two visits to the pharmacy down the street, two calls to the doctor’s office and one misbegotten phone menu, I managed to get the whole thing straightened out after about two days and extra money for rush delivery.

      Why are pills produced in so many forms?  Even over-the-counter Advil comes in a capsule and pill form.  I could understand if a generic pill was just done in plain white or blue or something, but let’s face it; there are just too many drugs out there. They come in enough colors that you could make a museum quality mosaic out of the ones left over after the doctor tells you to stop taking them (the day after your refill arrives).

      Some supplements come in pills the size of a checker piece, while others are so small they get lost in your mouth or melt on your tongue before you can swallow the eight ounces of water required on the label.  Those labels are cumbersome, too.  Sometimes the labels are so plentiful, they cover up the rest of the information on the pill bottle.  Take only as directed. Take with food.  Take with water. Sit up or stand for thirty minutes after taking. Watch the Ellen DeGeneres show after taking.  Okay, I made the last part up, but you get the picture (and Ellen’s show doesn’t come on at dinnertime, anyway).

      If we all lived healthier lives and could satisfy our doctors’ needs for more normal cholesterol numbers, we could ditch the pills altogether, and the folks who decide what color the pills should be could go into the crayon coloring business.

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    • Monsters Galore

      Posted at 3:06 am by kayewer, on August 18, 2013

      I just came from the horror convention in Cherry Hill. (http://www.monstermania.net/).

      MonsterMania is a great opportunity to get your scream on, mingle with costumed fans and bone up on the classics and newest crazes.

      Last year I went with the same friend as this year, and it’s still just as much fun going together.  We caught sight of George Romero and Malcolm McDowell in one of the celebrity autograph rooms (the main area featuring Carrie Fisher and Danny Glover, plus some television celebs, was extremely crowded), and after that we blew some money at the vendors’ tables. Among the DVDs and tee shirts, you can find fan gear of every type, from “Walking Dead” barware to contact lenses to help you look like a “True Blood” vampire, as well as costumes and jewelry of all kinds.

      Overall the horror and monster crowd features some of the nicest people you could imagine.  Even a guy in full Jason hockey mask glory moved politely through the crowd (though he accidentally gave one poor girl a shriek attack in the process: the “Friday the 13th” movies must’ve really creeped her out). In addition to the usual convention events, there is a charity fundraiser to benefit Save the Yorkies.  Who says horror buffs don’t give back to the community?

      We were lucky with parking this time (cars spilled out into the street once the lot was too double-parked to hold more), but next time I think we may take a cab and make sure to bring extra plastic bags to hold gear.  Not all vendors have bags, and some take cash only, which was why the hotel lobby ATM had a line longer than Carrie Fisher’s.  For the first-timer, I recommend good footwear and breathable clothing, as all the human (and sub-human) bodies packed onto the convention floor makes some amazingly intense–and sometimes smelly–body heat.  Always look over all the vendors once before breaking out your wallet, especially if you’re on a budget.  And bone up on how to handle zombies in case one lumbers your way.

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    • My Motto: Please Share It

      Posted at 2:38 am by kayewer, on August 11, 2013

      I have a motto, and I think it fits most situations in the United States and everywhere, so i think it’s time to share it with you. It’s simple: just six words:

      EVERYBODY HAS RIGHTS EXCEPT EVERYBODY ELSE!

      If we all considered who we don’t like for certain reasons, it’s obvious that we are not exactly working to keep our country free when it comes to expression.

      When you think about it, everything going on lately–from racism and culture clashes to reality show backstabbing like on Big Brother this season– has to do with how we feel about other people compared to ourselves at a particular moment and in a particular situation. We want America to be a free country until something is said or done which infuriates us to the point at which we want a certain right to be controlled, changed or abolished.

      A football player in Philadelphia used the “N” word and was caught on camera, while star chef Paula Deen admitted to having said that same word at some point in her life.  Really, just by saying we’re talking about “the ‘N’ word” means we are saying the “N” word.  Twenty years ago, if somebody had mentioned the “F” word on the air, folks would have fainted, and that one has nothing to do with the concept of African-American repression (it’s either about sex or violence, depending on your context).  Believe me, I don’t like the “N” word any more than I like words like retard (which I had hurled at me quite a bit in my formative years), but I don’t think either word can be banished from our vocabulary.  They exist and will always exist.  What we might want to do is counteract the catalyst for their usage. People who feel so strongly about sharing the same breathing space with certain other people sure seem to go where they are to start a fight about whose right it is to be there. So maybe it isn’t about everybody having rights at all, but about feeling good about one’s own rights.

      We seem to respond out of fear of what is different.  Something as simple as whether one uses mayonnaise or Miracle Whip® salad dressing can be a cause for disdain.  I’m amazed at how many people look at me as if I were an excommunicant in church when I’ve said that I like Miracle Whip®.  It’s as if I had just admitted to trying to kill somebody’s momma. They turn up their noses and look at me as if they can’t understand how somebody like me (and I don’t know their perception of what somebody like me is like) can do such a thing.  Usually I then get some dialogue about why it is not good for anything because the other person doesn’t like it.  It reminds me of an episode of “Garfield and Friends” in which the cartoon characters started a major argument just by asking what toppings to put on a pizza.  Your choice is fine, but if somebody mentions one that you don’t like, you feel fine about reading them off about it.

      On Big Brother, some of the Houseguests have been saying interesting things that have caused racial controversy.  Both black contestants have been voted out through the machinations of one particular player, and it seems like this player pushes everybody’s buttons by rubbing salt into their differences and making it seem like the other person should be stoned to death for not being a conformist. I think “different-ism” is more dangerous than any race problem, because it does tend to make everybody leery of his neighbor just because they don’t match up.

      The real problem is that we are still existing just fine in spite of our differences, so we should continue to have rights and let everybody else have theirs.  That means we can’t even discriminate against racists.  We don’t have to associate with them, and they should in turn not associate with us.  That way everybody will have rights, and if we don’t clash over everybody else’s.

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    • Intolerable Tolerance

      Posted at 2:00 am by kayewer, on August 4, 2013

      What a week for tolerance.  Same sex marriages are being accepted in more places, people continue to argue over descriptive language and whether or not to banish users of racial slurs from society, and the pope decided in a casual interview that he would not pass judgment upon gays.

      In fact, it was newsworthy that the pope used the word “gay,” in English, during the interview. It was in Time magazine as if it were the buzzword of the year.

      Franklin D. Roosevelt said in his famous inaugural speech that the only thing to fear is fear itself, and he was right then, and it holds true now.  Fear is what causes intolerance.  Fear is what turns the most placid human being into an animal in an invisible fight or flight drama. When we are afraid, we try to get rid of what causes the fear, rather than facing it and subduing it. We can easily escalate from lying and stealing, to torturing and killing for fear. None of those actions makes us feel any better in the long-term.

      If I mentioned to you that, at this moment, somebody you know may be doing something that will cause them to have cancer sometime soon? Or that the stranger you just passed on the street who looked uninteresting and normal beats his wife and children regularly? Or that your cleric prefers reading Highlights for Children magazine to any other? Or that a friend you knew to be the kindest and most innocuous human on the planet tortured small animals as a youngster?

      The world is still spinning, and what you know now doesn’t change what you’ve known until now.  That person you know will tell you soon that they have cancer, but they will still be the same person as who you knew before.  The stranger will either continue to abuse his family or something will stop him, and you won’t know it.  Your cleric will give another wonderful sermon next Sunday as previous Sundays. Your friend may work at the animal shelter or not have pets at all and won’t say why, but they are still who they were a second ago.

      So those same-sex couples who profess their commitments in marriage will have no effect on you (they certainly have not upset the new pope). And though people still bandy about the infamous “N” word, persons are not defined by the hatred of others, but how they are themselves; those who use slurs out of fear of what is different are themselves scandalous creatures acting blindly out of fear and deserve our kind efforts at correction, rather than our contempt.  Remember that nobody has the right to cast stones unless they are free of sin, and none of us can say that.

      Some folks have a tough time tolerating new things.  Our senior population balks at technology in the same way that the tweens look askance at our record players in the attic.  We’re all afraid.  That’s the milk of intolerance.

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    • This Topic Blows

      Posted at 2:27 am by kayewer, on July 28, 2013

      The other day I got a gelato from Rita’s.  I originally wanted strawberry water ice and chocolate soft serve, but they were out of chocolate soft serve and suggested I switch up the order, which I did.  My strawberry soft serve and chocolate water ice was out of this world.  It was also brain freeze cold.  That was when I caught myself doing a typical stupid human act: I blew on the gelato to warm it up.

      Sure, we often blow on hot chocolate or coffee or tea or soup to cool it down, but of course this doesn’t work in reverse to warm up cold things: it just looks silly and, if your breath is hot enough, may start melting your treat.

      I was with a friend at the time, and we had a good laugh about it, but when you think about all the things we exhale air for, it seems this is one habit that came out of nowhere and should stay there.

      And despite my blowing, I got brain freeze twice while eating that wonderful gelati.

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    • Crazy From the Heat

      Posted at 12:34 am by kayewer, on July 21, 2013

      The country has been affected by a heat wave over the past week.  I got in my car the other day and the inside temperature was 105 degrees.  With great heat seems to come great hotheads.  People are grumpy, and some are drawn to do desperate acts.  An adult bookstore was robbed on that 105 degree day by a fellow who lunged over the counter and allegedly bit the store clerk.  Outside Philadelphia, two men drag raced their cars and one crashed into a mother and her children crossing the street, killing them.

      It seems strange that people–seemingly men in particular–get hotter under the collar when it’s hot outside.  Mentally they seem to just boil over into violence.  In the case of the adult store robbery, I’m wondering why, if the place was air-conditioned, the robber just didn’t stand back, cool off and then grab a video and duck out the door: the clerk certainly didn’t taste all that good when the burglar bit him. Speculating on the matter, the adult video industry is having problems as it is with the availability of naughty material on the web, so did the robber really think there would be that much cash in the till?

      I work in a customer service environment, so I have heard complaints all week about how rudely people are treating the operators.  No matter how lousy I feel, I never take it out on a voice on the phone.  Grab a sip of water and take a moment to cool your jets before doing anything in this awful weather.  Don’t drag race if your car has no air conditioning, or if somebody called you out to test your manhood.  Don’t rob some poor schmoe in a porn emporium so you can buy a slushy. It always cools down again: in fact, it’s supposed to get better shortly around here.

      I’d rather drink a gallon of water than shed a drop of sweat in anger.

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    • Turkey Lurking

      Posted at 1:57 am by kayewer, on July 14, 2013

      Sometimes nature is right in front of us, and in the most unexpected places. I caught shots of this trio of wild turkeys grazing in an empty lot at the corner of a residential block just minutes from my home.

      Stuffing Themselves

      Tom, Tim and Tam, as we’ll call them, apparently lurk in the woods when not making personal appearances, and vacation out of the country when Thanksgiving approaches.

      It seems that wildlife appears to us more frequently now that we are encroaching more upon every speck of land on which we can build. All my life I’ve seen plenty of squirrels and birds, but over the past ten years have had first-time glances at chipmunks, deer and vultures in the open and within reach of a camera lens.

      It’s a good idea to leave these creatures be.  They’re just being themselves in a world which, for them, is shrinking rapidly. Fortunately my small pocket camera lens captured this action from a decent distance, and my being there had no visible effect on them. Now that I’ve posted the photo, everybody can enjoy it, and the birds can continue strutting their stuff in peace.

      I like photography for just that reason. It captures life as we don’t often get to see it, and nobody gets hurt.

       

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    • Windows 8 My Start Button!

      Posted at 2:21 am by kayewer, on July 7, 2013

      For some adults of a certain age, the personal computer has been a form of technology we have been running neck and neck with, rather than at a pace well ahead of its own improvements.  I started learning about computers when Wang was an office staple and screens were two shades of green: dark green background, and lots of text in luminous light green. I learned some aspects of DOS and WYSIWYG just to program standard office applications. All that training went obsolete months after I learned them, but fortunately not every office I worked in kept up with technology and I was able to use it until the joys of Windows came along.

      With Windows 8, I feel like I’m back in front of that green-screened Wang again.

      The newest operating system is designed to work with regular computers and touch screen devices. However, I don’t use it on a touch screen device, and there is a different experience with using a mouse. Clicking on the screen icons does not produce the thing you want right away: there is always a screen with a symbol meaning you have accessed a program, followed by your main screen for that program. Like opening a screen door before the interior door, it’s superfluous. To get the system up and running I had to endure set-up, configuration, identity features up the yoo-hoo, and I still can’t figure out how to set up my photos to present a slide show on the main screen. I did manage to load a picture from the Internet twice by mistake, and that produced a two-photo slide show on a screen tile that I looked at for about two months.  I hope nobody else noticed: it makes me look like I only have two photos, and neither of them are of me.

      Those of us who like Windows have been deprived in the past of several iconic features.  I mourned the demise of “Clippy,” the cute paper clip character in Word applications who sat contentedly in the corner of my screen and performed for me when I saved a document or printed something. Now we have lost the “Start” button, a corner feature that will help even the most casual computer navigator find anything.  Since I’ve had Windows 8, the only things I’ve found easily are games.  I am now a certified “Tap Tiles” addict, and am fluent in five types of solitaire.

      Fortunately a version 8.1 is coming out soon with a reintroduced “Start” button.  Maybe it will come in green.

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    • Take the Keys

      Posted at 1:59 am by kayewer, on June 30, 2013

      I just read a series of comments, started by a reader of the Camden (NJ) Courier-Post, about store key tags; those little keyring accessories with bar codes and personal identification or member number data on them,  entitling you to special shopper discounts at your favorite stores.  The first reader to comment via the paper’s open forum column was concerned about the potential invasion of privacy. Two readers chimed in to add their comments about the subject and seemed okay with the idea of using them.

      Stores seem to gather information about how often you shop with them and what you buy. In turn, that translates into supply and demand data (what products are languishing or going out of stock on the shelves), what sizes of products sell, if promotions or store/manufacturer coupons work during a particular event or time frame, and other such bits of information vital to the operation of a business. Today, one of those discount tags (or cards, if you prefer those) can open doors for you anywhere in the country.  It was not like that not to long ago.

      Years ago I was in Tennessee and tried to use the charge card for my local department store at a chain which was supposedly able to accept my card because they have the same parent company.  My card even said on the back “Use this card at. . . .” Unfortunately the poor sales clerk had to call a manager to figure out how to do it, so it took me twenty minutes to accomplish.  The charge did go through, and it didn’t show up on my bill for three months. Maybe the folks at the parent company didn’t think I would take them up on it.

      On the other hand, I was in Pathmark store awhile back, and I had the nicest cashier who smiled and graciously accepted my Super Fresh discount key tag (they have the same parent company as well).  But two weeks ago, I was at the same store, and my flat-voiced checker not only grumbled about my presenting the key tag, she threw my purchases into plastic bags after I had asked for combo (paper in plastic) and wanted me to hand back two extra paper bags I was prepared to take with me.  I politely explained that I intended to put the paper bags into the extra plastic bags when I got home, and did not give them back. I also have not gone back to Pathmark. 

      I shop at Target (or, if you prefer, “Tar-zhay”) with a friend, and every time she buys two particular products and swipes her well-worn credit card to pay for them, the register spits out coupons for more of that product on her next visit.  They know she uses it, and the supplier wants her to keep buying it, and Target wants her to keep buying it in their store.  On the other hand, I go to the same supermarket every week to get the groceries, and I pay cash.  Though I am not a sporting person, I get the same coupon for Sports Authority every week.  It goes in the shredder.  Hey, no system is perfect.

      My problem with those key thingies is that not every merchant places the hole for insertion of my key ring  in the center of the little strip of  laminated cardboard. One has the hole in the upper left corner, and another is just the size of a guitar pick, so my OCD gets a workout because I have a stack of those tags on my key ring and they never line up neatly. Like the marcher in the parade who is one half step out of line, my key ring is in chaos. The designers also carefully arranged the barcode so I can’t re-punch a hole in the middle to restore order.

      In the good old days of our parents or grandparents, charge accounts were done with metal key fobs.  At least they wouldn’t soil or erode as easily as laminate, though they would weigh heavily in a pocket or purse.  These little shopping aides seem to be a woman’s domain.  We are the ones who hit the malls, after all.  It’s just as well, as a man wouldn’t tolerate the extra bulge on the keychain or the resulting ridges in his buttocks.  I hear there is an app for smart phones on which you can record your key tags and flash them at the store instead of using the stack of stuff, but I don’t own a smart phone.  Mine is not low on IQ, but I keep getting coupons for Sports Authority instead of the iPhone (R) store. So much for invading privacy: they haven’t a clue about me, even with my keyring full of barcodes.

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