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    • Plastic Surge-ury

      Posted at 4:41 pm by kayewer, on March 4, 2023

      I learned some surprising things about recycling today. One thing I learned was by accident, and the other I read. Neither is good.

      An article startled me by reporting that the city of New Orleans does not recycle glass. One of the easiest containers to recycle is composed of glass. It can be recast as a new glass infinitely, and doing so saves the environment not only from landfill accumulation, but from other processes used to create the initial glass product (meaning that since it has been created, repurposing it takes fewer steps). Somebody had the idea of taking glass in the city and turning it into sand to use on beaches and to fill sandbags. However, before this idea came about, tons of glass probably ended up in a pile someplace.

      After reading about this environmental news item, I started preparing breakfast, which included a mandarin orange. Little citrus products like lemons, limes and clementines, as well as avocados, usually appear in the grocer housed several to a bag; these bags are made of a finely spun plastic which is not recyclable. To access the items, the bags are ripped apart with superhuman strength, or cut.

      I don’t like using scissors to cut those plastic mesh bags. The threads are woven into loops so tiny, that one cut can send a bunch of miniscule snippets onto the counter. They also cling to the blades of the scissors.

      I don’t know about some people, but I use a wet paper towel to mop up those small pieces, but they don’t always surrender to this process.

      When I retrieved my mug of tea, I was shocked to find, floating atop my creamer, a tiny red plastic mesh bag snippet. Considering how clean I keep my prep space, this was an unexpected revelation. I still don’t know how it got there, but at least I didn’t consume it.

      This is the kind of incident which jolts the mind into the reality of what we are doing to our environment. Imagine one of those fine snippets finding its way out of the runoff from a landfill, into the rivulets leading to the streams and lakes and rivers, only to make a home in the catfish Uncle Henry brings home for dinner. You probably won’t see or recognize it at that stage, but you are likely to ingest it. It has been proven that microscopic plastics are ending up in the bowels of our wildlife.

      Of course, I plucked the small red snippet out of my tea mug and carried on, but it’s a reminder of what is happening in our world , due in no small part to our ignorance of our waste problem.

      If one person throws out one mesh bag a week that is not recycled, when you figure there are over 300 million people in this country, and add to those bags the number of other plastics that don’t receive any attention except to throw them on a pile, the results are staggering.

      There are paper mesh products which could just as easily hold produce, and would degrade in a landfill or even go out with your paper, bottle and can recycling.

      The oceans and open space we condemn to hold waste materials will not last forever. Instead of turning our backs on the issue, we should hold the creators of these wasteful products to task to come up with a better solution.

      The recent extreme weather is just a sample of what we can expect if we don’t stop now. Our oceans are rising because people are dumping waste in there to “make it go away.” Those days are coming to an end. It seems the piper is holding out his hat, and we’re not putting the money where it needs to go. The time has come to make more responsible uses of our glass and plastics.

      We can’t stomach any of it, but we need the guts to fix it.

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    • A Shelved Topic

      Posted at 4:28 pm by kayewer, on February 25, 2023

      I completed assembling the curio cabinet. It’s filled already.

      The task was more involved than I anticipated, because the instructions didn’t provide as thorough guidance as I needed. The initial steps were finely detailed, with large photos of hardware assembly, but suddenly the illustrators left out the directions to help assemble the top shelf and the doors. They chose instead to include full-body photos of two people placing the panels. It was as if somebody tore the entire Battle of Hogwarts out of a Harry Potter book and expected the reader to figure everything out anyway.

      Four of the six glass panels were in place, so World War III began when I needed to add the last three pieces without a panel falling or the hardware slipping. I tried loosening hardware to allow space for the install, then I removed the top and tried to put the door panels in first, but every effort nearly cost me damage to the glass or injury to myself. It took several tries, and over half an hour, not to mention some harsh language, tears, intricate thought and planning to get it done, but in the end it was finished. The sense of accomplishment as I emerged, sweaty and winded, from the battlefield, was intensely satisfying. It was also gratifying to put the instruction sheet through the shredder while performing an appropriate conqueror jig.

      After finishing the assembly, I had the task of filling the cabinet. That was the fastest part of the entire project, because the items I had to display outnumbered the space I had. If I knew I needed the help of a math expert to calculate how much of a cabinet I would need at the start, I would have hired one from the nearest university math department.

      After shifting and stacking my collection inside, I still have items left over, so my new task is to figure out how to shelve the extras. Do I buy another cabinet and start over? Admittedly that is not my first choice, but it may be the only one that is sure to work. Rather than go through the same assembly issues, maybe simple shelving will work better.

      This is the problem of collecting things; finding ways to house them while displaying them with pride.

      And knowing when to stop collecting, so you won’t have to buy another thing on which to display them.

      Wish me luck with that.

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    • Parking Lot Karen?

      Posted at 5:57 pm by kayewer, on February 18, 2023

      I am familiar with discussions on Reddit in which people ask for validation when something caused them to behave in a way that they now question. AITA, or “Am I the A**hole,” is a topic mined by influencers and stay-at-home moms alike. Often the response is “not the a**hole,” because the other person involved took that title away by causing the reaction in the first place.

      This story is similar but poses the question, “Did I just meet a Karen?”

      I managed to pull into a choice parking spot at the local supermarket, on the end closest to the store, with a berm beside me on the right, and near enough to the cart return that I could snag a cartlet (what I like to call those squat two-level small shopping carts) with no difficulty. This is a store that I have had issues with lately, because they stopped offering hand baskets and no longer place the carts against the wall near the door; you must obtain one from the return area on the way in or juggle your items in your arms.

      Fortunately, I found a single cartlet in the corral, and merrily wheeled my way inside. After picking up nearly everything on my list, I bagged my purchases and headed to my car.

      Here is where the subject of the question comes in; I placed my bags in the trunk, when a voice some distance behind me says, “I’ll take your cart.” I turn around, ready to hand the cartlet over to somebody approaching the store, but the person is not behind me. She is in her car with the window rolled down.

      I start to smile and say, “Fine, I’ll leave it here for you,” but didn’t get a chance to.

      She then adds, “And your parking spot. Just make sure you can get out okay.” I pulled in, you see.

      Well, I was rather flabbergasted. But, being cool under the circumstances, I replied, “It’s fine; I’m headed that way,” pointing to the west as she was headed east. I promptly got into my car, backed out and made for the exit.

      She wasn’t anybody I’d recognize as important; just an ordinary lady who, on my quick examination, had one of those round-faced casserole-toting housewives looks about her. Think a cross between June Cleaver and Dolores Umbridge from Harry Potter.

      She met the requirements of entitlement for certain. Imagine thinking to yourself, “I’ll just drive up to this lady and demand her cart and parking spot.”

      So, did I meet a Karen or not?

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    • The Name of Love

      Posted at 4:58 pm by kayewer, on February 11, 2023

      Terms such as “love” and “hate” are so misused they have lost their meaning. With Valentine’s Day approaching, it might be wise to look at what these terms do to our daily lives.

      Love is defined in the dictionary as an emotional fondness for another person, which can also be elevated to an intense sexual attraction. An attraction for another can be all-consuming to one’s mental state. It is not truly a term one can assign to a blouse in the department store (though one can be excited by the prospect of adding it to one’s wardrobe).

      Love brings out feelings of compassion and empathy and is often caused by like-mindedness between two people. Each is inclined to look out for the well-being of the other. They share an understanding of common opinions, feelings and life goals. Often two people in love share at least a few common likes and dislikes. There is joy in doing things they like as a couple. At the same time, they can individually pursue interests they don’t share. Neither needs to feel bad about liking something the other doesn’t.

      Hate, on the other hand, is defined as a feeling of extreme dislike or hostility. It can also not be used for that blouse in the department store, because its existence has a possible purpose in somebody else’s life. Somebody may be excited to find it, but it may not be the style for you. You really don’t hate the blouse, but you don’t find it appealing.

      When it comes to people, we tend to choose who we love or “hate” based upon what we feel comfortable with. We sort out our experiences, our information or misinformation, and decide this person is okay and that person is not. The differences between people, however, are not really important. You may not find something in common with somebody, but another person may.


      That brings us to the polar opposite of love.

      Hatred is usually a mistaken term applied when fear is truly the feeling at hand. Bullies, protestors, political activists and the like attempt to not allow the thing they fear to exist. The problem is that often what they fear has always existed; people simply choose a time and place to draw attention to it. It’s one topic today, but another tomorrow. Whatever the subject, the topic of hating is usually what comes out when we fear something we don’t understand. It’s the easy path to hate, rather than to let matters be.

      Hating people is the lowest one can go, and yet we perpetuate the idea that it’s okay to leave some people ineligible to be loved. This group is better than that group; this person is lesser than that person, and so on.

      This coming Valentine’s Day will be depressing for countless people who have nobody who loves them. Some people have never known love in their lifetime.

      Let’s repeat that: there are people on Planet Earth who have NEVER known love in their lifetime!

      It must be okay, because it’s going on right now.

      Does that make you fearful?

      It should.

      When we face what we fear, we often find that love has a purpose behind what we choose to see.

      Everybody deserves to be loved.

      Maybe it’s time we overcame our fear of love.

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    • Assemblers Assemble

      Posted at 6:47 pm by kayewer, on February 4, 2023

      I didn’t expect my week to go like this. Originally my plan was to spend some time during the week assembling a curio cabinet, but the demands of work and life put it off. When winter made it too cold for my car to start–first time it’s ever happened (yes, honestly) –I decided I should spend the time I would have been running errands working on the project.

      Sometimes, however, the simplest of projects can become a daunting task.

      The instructions that came with the cabinet contain pictures and a full inventory, and the instructions in English are well-done compared to some that come from overseas Amazon merchants. However, the visuals don’t tell the whole story. The cabinet comes with a safety feature to secure it to the wall, but not a screw for the wall itself; only one to attach it to the cabinet. The screws to put the feet in place came with two more than in the illustration. The exploded graphic pictures don’t show how to assemble the bolts and screws, and some helpful explanations appear lacking.

      The issue is this: I don’t want to end up working through all the hardware and realize I used the wrong nuts or bolts or screws. I’m experienced in Ikea, but not fluent in imported assembly from elsewhere. Perhaps they should learn to illustrate in Ikea.

      Reminds me of a story my mother told me about a metal dollhouse she and my father assembled for me when I was little. The tabs and slots were not properly aligned, and they toiled through Christmas Eve and into Christmas morning to get it together. They hacked up their fingers, worked when they should’ve been sleeping, got punchy and battered, but still emerged triumphant to bring the holidays to life. They didn’t even have Ikea instructions.

      When things aren’t true to the instructions, it becomes a tour through a special sub-basement of hell. One certainly wouldn’t want to take the tour during the holidays.

      Once dusk came, I had to put the project aside. Daytime will come again, and with it I will need to see if the car will start before the struggle begins again. I will have to resist the urge to drive away (or walk) to the nearest hotel to get away from it all. And I don’t know if a car repair bill is in my future. Gee, I don’t even know if a finished cabinet is in my future right now.

      The next step in assembling the cabinet involves placing glass walls into the base and linking the hardware to combine the corners and sides. The illustrations show two people standing by arrow-straight panels. I could use better assembly instructions instead.

      I’m not one to give up easily. Obstacles are merely challenges. Too many at the same time, though, can be psychologically enervating. The key is to pace the body and shore up the spirit to accomplish the goals and overcome the roadblocks.

      The cabinet will rise. The car will be restored. And atop the mental wasteland of battle, I will stand victorious.

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    • Ratty Carpet Treatment

      Posted at 4:36 pm by kayewer, on January 28, 2023

      There’s nothing like a DIY project to prove to yourself that you have talents you never imagined. Also, you find your greatest flaws while working on some complex home improvement endeavor alone. This week I began a long overdue task of removing an old carpet from an unused bedroom. The carpet was a thin, low pile with rubber backing which dried out and needed attention for some time, but a person was in need of that room to sleep and feel familiar surroundings in, so I didn’t touch it until it was vacated.

      First, I took inventory of the situation and found that the carpet was not tacked down. Then I discovered that the dried rubber created dust. Third, I Googled and read that I was unlikely to come into contact with any dangerous substances from the dried-up carpet. I’m nothing if not thorough.

      Because the room is fully furnished and it would be impractical to move things around in its present state, my first task is to segment the carpet and remove it in pieces. The section closest to the unused far wall would be first, and it will soon become the location of a curio cabinet. I got a special pair of shears and found, to my delight, that they worked easily to cut through the section I needed. It took about twenty minutes to cut and roll the piece for disposal. Some chunks of rubber dropped or adhered to the wood floor, so my next step was to clean.

      A visit to the local discount megastore found me a great bargain in some pre moistened wood cleaning cloths I could use with the wet/dry mop I already had, so I returned to the floor with my dust-sucking device and my mop, and soon had the area in top shape. I even removed a potential splinter or two beforehand.

      Next, my curio cabinet came in two boxes. They’re filled with glass panels and seem to weigh as much as two school-age children. The first box I took upstairs by walking and angling it up both flights, but the taller box will be more of a challenge, because it’s long and will not corner well. That’s the next phase. I will probably angle it up the first flight, stand it on end on the landing, and then angle it again onto the second flight.

      The plan is to assemble the cabinet, move the items into it and then be free to shift the other furniture as necessary to cut the carpet and slide the pieces out from underneath.

      The fun has been in the planning and execution, and I’m glad I have the ability to figure it out and get it done. So far, so good.

      I will post part two as soon as it’s finished. If I don’t post again, you can assume I got stuck under a curio cabinet box.

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    • Between the Dots

      Posted at 4:46 pm by kayewer, on January 21, 2023

      I decided to try keeping a bullet journal. After reading about them in ads for months and not truly knowing what they are, I researched and decided it would be a helpful tool to keep me focused on balancing what I need to do and what I’ve accomplished. I did start a 2023 self-care journal which is already laid out, but sometimes those prompts don’t match anything I actually do from day to day.

      This style of blank book contains spaced dots instead of lines, in grid form. You can use rulers and templates to customize your journal with banners, flowers and graphics. You can also draw lines of your own. I will find it a challenge to draw a complete line without the pen trailing off into a small squiggle at the end. It’s a curse I never overcame while drawing lines in high school. I’ll try to use something to hold the ruler down, like a heavy brick, and then draw my lines upside down. That should do the trick.

      Another term for bullet journaling is bujo (using the first two letters from each word). That sounds a bit like bougie, which is a slang term for persons with a high-class nose-in-the-air affectation and an affinity for spending in a class above their means. Think of it as that neighbor with the Escalade (on lease) who you know pays for their weekly mani-pedis on their lowest interest credit card and rents their ritzy handbags by the week.

      I found out quickly that bujo can be a bougie choice, with accessories to pretty up your books such as washi tape. They’re not wishy washy, but beautiful strips of colorful or fanciful designs to use at will and showcase your entries. Lovely ribbons serve as bookmarks, and uniquely shaped paper clips help you find other pages in an instant. You can add photos to your journal, or write in colored pens, even write with bright colored gel pens on black paper if you wish.

      The general idea is to stimulate your mind while keeping track of your life. It’s making life appear more beautiful. Working from home makes life rather dull, so I hope this will help.

      I could have started with a lined book and gone on from there, but I have found that beginning in that manner is often too slow for me. I need the challenge to tackle something more middle-of-the-road. Not kindergarten, but maybe second grade.

      The book I ordered will come with sustainable products and accessories; the book cover is vegan leather. Never having dealt with vegan leather, I just hope it feels touchable and doesn’t smell distinctively odd.

      Once I get started journaling, the hope is to stay focused and retain my creative spark. Maybe my first bullet journal will look funny, but it’ll be fun to make it that way.

      Like connecting the dots.

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    • Immersion Assertion

      Posted at 5:40 pm by kayewer, on January 14, 2023

      One of my resolutions for the year was to write more. The four installments for my novel series are planned, but making the time to draft them has been a challenge. Since I’m permanently working from home (our office was mothballed, so we couldn’t go back if we wanted to), I don’t even have a daily round-trip commute to take a break between computers. Now my drive time consists of a walk from a comfy chair to another sort of comfy chair, and from my workstation to my recreation station (I would say play, but that’s trademarked).

      I spend some sixteen hours in front of a screen. That may be more than some nine-year-olds.

      See, I’m still thinking young.

      In order to devote some blocks of time to writing my stories, I have been taking advantage of write-ins and such, but this week will be busier than usual. I have three write-ins this week; one is in person.

      That means I have to leave the house hoping my idea of dress code matches everybody else’s. That was never a problem in the office.

      I also have a writer’s group meeting, and it’s the only one right now that’s in-person. It’s in a library, inside a municipal building. Bookstores aren’t taking in-person groups at present. They may not come back at all. Imagine book retailers discouraging people who write what they sell from meeting in their locations. What is this world coming to?

      I also started working with a critique group to make sure novel number one is all it could be. We exchange our pieces via email two weeks in advance and then meet virtually once a month to review everybody’s work in progress. We try to cover as much as we can, and occasionally we meet for over three hours. It’s helpful, and we get our edited pieces back.

      This means I have editing on my list of things to do while I’m still drafting.

      During National Novel Writing Month last November, I wrote an additional 50,000 words. That could be a whole story, but editing will probably truncate it to half that on the first try. It’s the novelist’s curse to hate a lot of what we draft.

      This is going to be a full month, and I hope to get plenty more writing done.

      In addition to what I’ve just done here for you to read.

      Wish me luck.

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    • Selective Reading

      Posted at 4:57 pm by kayewer, on January 7, 2023

      I spent some time this past week making some changes around the house, which involved moving pieces of old furniture which had not been attended to in a while. Those of you who have parents or grandparents from the post-war generation know that they never threw anything away, so I found spare jars of cold cream, receipts from long-defunct hardware stores and sundries long past their usefulness, and my discard pile grew quite large.

      What I didn’t expect to find, while cleaning out a drawer, was a 1974 issue of Playgirl magazine. The idea for the magazine had sprung from the popularity of the Playboy franchise and Hugh Hefner’s hold on the men’s lifestyle movement, so it was the equivalent for women readers, with a less ritzy and raunchy vibe.

      The magazine apparently had first published the year before, when I was still a high school student, and I didn’t know the publication existed until 1979. I know this because I bought my first issue out of a hotel vending machine while job training during the day and going to college at night, so this early issue was definitely not my copy. It certainly was not my father’s.

      So how did it get into a drawer at home? A mystery to be unfolded.

      Playing Shirley Holmes with no Dr. Watson, I looked through the issue and found several insightful and timely (for then) articles on travel, lifestyles, medicine and home, with the usual smattering of cigarette and stereo system ads. The funniest of these was for an introductory eight-track tape offer. Some of us of a certain age remember those ill-conceived ideas for changing record albums into something portable for the car or take-along player. I recall listening to a song on eight-track one time, which broke off abruptly because the player had to switch to the next tape reel inside. The results were hilarious and rather annoying when trying to appreciate a classic.

      But I digress. I was surprised to find that, for a magazine supposedly aimed at the female desire for admirable nudity similar to what their opposite-gender counterparts were receiving monthly (courtesy of a pajama-clad entrepreneur), there were only a handful of full-frontal glimpses in the issue. Yes, there was a centerfold, and a photo essay, but the pages were mostly devoted to articles of interest to the modern woman of 1974.

      So my deduction is that the issue somehow found its way into the mostly female office where my mother worked. She may have removed it from the common area or been lent it for some reason and kept it out of a sense of enforcing workplace decency, or took it home for an article and didn’t need to bring it back. Maybe the lender didn’t want to deal with feedback from the spouse. The only other possible cause was that it was brought home after an ill-conceived joke went wrong on somebody’s part. One thing I know for sure is she didn’t buy it.

      So I unearthed a piece of magazine history, and I don’t want to get rid of it. The pages are a time capsule, looking back at when life was different. I’ll never know what articles were read in the privacy of our home, but I think I will read them all myself.

      Then I can take in the photos.

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    • Saturday Countdown Part Three

      Posted at 4:59 pm by kayewer, on December 31, 2022

      This is the last Saturday of 2022. Thank goodness. We now have a future to look forward to, with a different digit to remember on our daily timekeeping for 365 days, new things in life starting as others end, and the burden of reflection on our past and attempts to be and do better.

      This last week, to close out the year, we lost Pele the famous soccer player, Pope Emeritus Benedict, and Barbara Walters. We lost good people in 2022. We can look upon their passing with sadness. When your good people pass on, it makes one think about the nasty ones remaining, and we can wish to make certain there are fewer of them. One is a heckler who may have had a sip of alcohol too many before sitting down for a performance of “Death of a Salesman” on Broadway; the actor Wendell Pierce, portraying the lead character Willie Loman, remained onstage when the staff stopped the production and brought up the house lights to deal with the situation, and he is being lauded for handling it with cool professionalism (he promised to give the lady a refund himself). Perhaps theaters should take on the responsibility of intoxication screening, if patrons won’t take it upon their own. I don’t want to go to a performance and have to deal with such distractions, and I have a few coming next year.

      It seems our biggest problem. coming out of 2022, remains ourselves.

      We cannot expect a future to be better if we continue to treat life as if we are owed something special. We never know what life will be like when we awaken in the morning; we may find our roof blew off overnight, or martial law has been declared. It may rain, snow or worse. I watched a recent rain event, heard the thunder and thought to myself, “Gee, that’s the first time I’ve heard thunder in ages.” News about climate change seems to fall on deaf ears. I cannot fathom how plastics could be invented without having a method for destroying or repurposing them.

      This says something about our future weather and the state of our planet; when we go too long without the weather we expect, we get more than we expect. Just ask Buffalo. They may dig out of their recent blizzard soon, but what about the future disasters waiting to happen? Before we dismissively threw our waste into landfills and oceans, we had normal weather. What’s to come?

      Some people are still in denial about the changing way we move into cold weather and the upper respiratory issues that come with that change. I have gone into malls and stores fully protected inside and out, and I only see a handful of others doing the same. Sometimes accepting some inconveniences for the greater good is also good for you. What you don’t pass on to somebody, doesn’t rebound onto you, either. Just don’t breathe on, and you won’t be breathed upon.

      The US won’t have major elections to worry about in 2023. The political fallout from post-2016 continues for us Americans (we still have the same president), but King Charles III will be crowned in May, making his rule over Britain and its other territories official. They will also have Queen Camilla, but it’s not quite the same thing as when they had Queen Elizabeth. There is still a conflict going on in Ukraine, and a few other countries are making changes. We need to watch those.

      The future is certain to hold some tragedy, some happiness, and some sobering events which will affect everybody. The best we can do is be obedient, honorable and mindful, and try to keep those who choose not to in line. It’s always been that way. That will never change.

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