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    • Top of the Tops

      Posted at 3:07 pm by kayewer, on August 3, 2024

      The issue of what to wear this morning involved more than just swapping out yesterday’s outfit. I was going to an event, so I wanted to present a low-key vibe. A horror convention came to town for the second of their yearly visits, and a friend and I, both fans in our golden years, would be mingling with people of all ages, with a lean toward the younger folks. She decided on a tank that I had gifted for her birthday, depicting one of the latest gross horror movie icons. I could have worn a shirt from a prior convention, or selected a movie themed tee, but instead I opted for a generic souvenir tee.

      Off we went to the local hotel venue, credit cards at the ready. We were QR code scanned, given security wristbands and sent off to await the opening of the vendors’ areas some ninety minutes later (arriving early ensured a safer parking spot and avoided needing to shuttle from a nearby overflow designated school parking lot). While we waited, we chatted about some of our misguided plans from past conventions. My friend delayed in replying to me about a past spring edition which she would have enjoyed attending, and the tickets sold out rapidly. These conventions promise a fine list of celebrity guests who either sign autographs, pose for professional photos with (extra) paying fans, or both. We have witnessed the queues for these fan events snake out the hotel lobby, past the pool and nearly to the street. Excited attendees have brought full-size mounted posters, artistically recreated busts of characters and other items for signing. The lines for the vendors’ rooms are also lengthy, but once the time arrives, they move rapidly and offer merciful relief from times like now, in August, when waiting in oppressive heat is unbearable.

      We stopped at a favorite tee shirt vendor first to grab the newest collectibles, then on to the various pins, action figures, videos, household items and decorations, all with a frightening theme to match. If you wanted a Nightmare on Ordinary Avenue, this is where you would make it happen. I approached at least two authors selling their books. As we began to tire, my friend’s shirt themed character appeared, and she got a few selfies. Proof that one doesn’t need celebrities to have fun at a horror convention.

      As I moved from vendor table to displays and racks of merchandise, something unusual happened. People were paying attention to my tee shirt, which was an impulse item I had bought at an Amish retail mecca in Pennsylvania. “Oh, I miss being in Lancaster,” one gothic-clad woman remarked. “Oh honey, we need to visit this place,” a vendor husband said to his wife after calling up the location on his cell. A third struggled to communicate her excitement through prosthetic vampire fangs. My friend was gobsmacked.

      Once a year I have made it a point to visit the location of the shirt’s origins, a place known as Shady Maple in the quaint East Earl area of PA. There is a humungous smorgasbord, touted as the largest in America, as well as a farm market and gift shop with a variety of local items as well as collectibles. I go for the collectibles, and have blown through my funds there every time, preventing me stopping in for the food. I promised my friend that we would go together and eat whatever we want. They offer everything from comfort food to vegan menu items; certainly we could indulge in a treat or three for one day.

      In all I received four comments from total strangers about my shirt. So much for being low-key.

      My credit card is a bit heavy from the haul, but I made wise choices and will use what I bought. Our next visit may be in the spring, if we plan ahead better. But first, let’s look at that luncheon menu.

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    • Ring It Up

      Posted at 3:21 pm by kayewer, on July 27, 2024

      Earlier today I went grocery shopping. Being a Saturday, I was hoping that my bad luck streak from the rest of the week (read work-related blues) would have abated, but I was wrong.

      The Saturday before the first of every month can be easier on the nerves at a supermarket, because people who are paid once a month have exhausted their funds stocking up on things weeks ago. I chose the late morning to go as my last stop before home, since I planned to buy mostly frozen food.

      I managed to stock up on vegetables, which are supposedly better for me than canned. Besides the brick varieties, I also got microwave steam choices in bags. Eighteen items in all.

      Then I grabbed a small box of Yodels.

      Off to the self-checkout I went, confidently drawing out my generic shopping bag (my state being a plastic bag ban participant) and beginning my purchase experience. First, I scanned my savings card from my keychain (yes, I keep those instead of an app), then began scanning my bricks of frozen veggies, as a friendly female voice announced the financial damages. The bar codes are in the same place on all the boxes, so I took two boxes in hand, scanned one and bagged it while holding the other.

      That’s where my trouble began. The cameras stationed at every kiosk are programmed to watch what is placed in the bags, and my camera was ready to train its full attention on me because I had a box of frozen veggies in my right hand near the bag, which I had not yet scanned, while bagging the one I just scanned with my left hand.

      The kiosk shut down. Moments later, a helpful monitor came by and overrode the error with a crooked smile that says she has been through this more than she’d care to mention. I continued, but kept my other hand free so as not to look like a potential miscreant.

      Finally I reached the moment in which I was ready to pay for my purchases. Breaking out my credit card, I followed the prompt to slide the magnetic strip through the device. An error message then appeared, saying I needed to insert the card to scan the chip. With the resignation of “how much more wrong can this transaction go” in my head, I chipped, received the confirmation, removed my card. . . .and the kiosk produced another error message.

      Note to self and everybody: never, EVER, ask what more can go wrong, because Murphy (the angel whose law has become his to oversee in the afterlife) will hear you and make something else happen to wreck your day.

      A nice fellow came by this time and attempted to fix the problem by scanning his all-access-I’m-somebody card, and the kiosk came back to life as if I hadn’t paid. He asked if a receipt printed out, and I said no. It hadn’t. He then brings over the floor manager, and we have a chat about how much the bill was and what I had used to pay. Thank goodness I didn’t use cash! The lady manager sets off to review the activity at my kiosk, and returns to verify my personal information which was accessible to her–my phone numbers, name of my first grade teacher, blood type–and she reveals that no activity was posted since I last visited after the holiday earlier in the month. She suggested we go to another kiosk and repeat the entire transaction again.

      Now the resignation in my soul is telling me that I will have defrosted vegetables by the time I get home, but being a good citizen, we go to another kiosk and begin the process of scanning everything again. The floor manager helps, even pausing my scanning to remind me not to accidentally cover up the bar code when I hold the items. I suddenly feel like I should be in the tight quarters of the store’s security interrogation room, explaining myself to some business suited investigators who hold the power to put me in the slammer over a $1.99 box of frozen spinach. And I’ve done nothing wrong, nor have they implied that I have. It’s the inconvenience and the spotlight being on me that makes it such an issue.

      The total comes out exactly the same. I chip, the receipt prints out, and the manager says they will double check everything, but I should also see if two charges come up on the credit card when I get home.

      Sure enough, after I quickly stored my freezer full of properly double-scanned and paid for veggies, I found two pending charges for the same amount on my credit card.

      Dutifully I called up the issuer. Since the charges are pending, it may be five days before the transaction is finalized. By then the store will have found it and fixed it, or I can dispute the charge. This means a few days of the stress meter in my life on a slight upward tilt as I wait for the results of this debacle.

      Oh, and my Yodels were melted together when I got them home.

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    • Wrong Way

      Posted at 4:05 pm by kayewer, on July 20, 2024

      Over the past few decades, we seem to have forgotten that life works well when we keep certain things to a prescribed plan which has been tested and proven. All of the “fail” videos we watch with amusement are testaments to what happens when we go about life as if everything we do requires no responsibility. Let me explain.

      Let’s say you decide to go to 7-Eleven and buy a Slurpee(R). This sounds like a simple thing, but it has several components to the experience. For the purposes of this example, we’re placing you in front of the dispenser for your purchase. First, you choose the size cup, then you have the initial task of selecting the lid to fit onto that cup. Your next responsibility is to fit the lid onto the cup securely so that your cup won’t pop the lid off when you fill it. You will also hold the cup firmly but not squeeze it. Then, you place the nozzle for the flavor you’ve selected over the hole in the lid and operate the lever to begin filling the cup. You are responsible for watching the process to stop the dispenser before you overflow the cup. Finally, you select a straw, remove its paper cover and deposit it in the provided trash container, and place the straw into your drink and proceed to the register.

      Any deviation from this task list can result in a problem, in the form of a spill or explosion of the cup or, in the case of a conscious choice, leaving loose straw papers about which are “somebody else’s job” to clear.

      The key to life, folks, is that we are all “somebody else.” That means if you take on a task, you should complete every aspect of it. It is your job to perform from step one until the last step. Many people are not taking on that responsibility. It shows in everything we are doing today.

      We are sharing the road with drivers who have never changed the oil on their vehicles. Worse, they let their tires go bald, and when rust develops, hold the undercarriage of their vehicle together with everything from rope to duct tape to spray foam. Buying a vehicle carries with it the responsibility to keep it maintained so it’s safe on the road. Ignoring the processes which keep a vehicle safe causes accidents and fatalities. People who buy a vehicle and do nothing except put gas in the tank are examples of folks not following the responsibilities which come with vehicle ownership. Shops can’t do anything except record what they see (for a look at some examples, look for “Just Rolled In” on social media).

      People who have children sometimes don’t do so responsibly. Their parents’ methods don’t always work raising today’s children. Occasionally the methods wouldn’t work with anybody, and the excuse “well, they didn’t do it right, but I turned out okay” is a copout. Some concepts of good parenting are well-proven and appear in online tutorials as well as self-help books. The duty of a parent is to take on the responsibility of guiding children through those years when they learn the basics, explore and test their environment and begin the quest for independence. This requires interaction from changing their diapers to picking them up at two in the morning wherever they find themselves. Too many parents can be found not engaging their children in anything resembling basic life skill learning.

      Your pets should be spayed or neutered before they hit puberty. Your kids can witness the miracle of birth on one of a jillion videos online without bringing more mutts or alley cats into the world. Besides, the old rumor that “giving birth calms a mother dog/cat down” refers only to the short span of nursing time when females are happily jacked up on oxytocin, the hormone that helps the nursing parent endure the rigors of being a 24-hour feeding machine for a growing family. As it does with humans, it goes away and the original demeanor restored. It’s not an excuse to add to the population, for animals or people.

      Back in the “good old days,” if you look at old photographs and advertisements, you will see that people followed a general ideal for daily living. People dressed neatly, children were well-mannered, nobody wore a logo on their clothing, carried around a support animal sporting multiple DNA backgrounds or drove a “clunker.” The results of mutual cooperation were peaceful and safe lives for everybody. We could have that again, but it would require a different mindset for the population, and some others would complain about it. The more we deviate from what works, however, the worse our world becomes.

      Remember that next time you get ready to dispense that beverage.

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    • Number 8

      Posted at 3:30 pm by kayewer, on July 13, 2024

      Over the summer I have had a few experiences with people who don’t follow the basic rules in life. Oftentimes I read about them in social media, but I have stories of my own about integrity and honesty which I feel are worth sharing.

      The other week I was at a coffee shop with some fellow writers. Naturally the shop had a merchandise table, so I added a tee shirt to my purchases for the afternoon (along with my pastry and parfait). I dutifully brought the items to the cashier, and tapped my credit card. When I got home later, however, I realized that, even though I had placed the tee shirt on the counter, it wasn’t rung up with my purchases.

      Some folks might be thinking, “It’s their loss if they weren’t paying attention.” To me, though, this tee shirt still does not belong to me. This means a trip of some 20 miles to go back and pay for it. My conscience will thank me later.

      My most recent big shocker about integrity came when I went to buy some supplies at a major chain whose name I won’t divulge for reasons you will see in a moment. I came out of the store with a little bag for an upcoming project, and the total bill came to over $100. The cashier told me I could become a rewards member and get this discount and that offer to offset my purchase, and while we were discussing it, I was told the story of how certain people make a regular visit to the store with the sole purpose of robbery, to the tune of thousands of dollars. The store personnel are advised by corporate–as they are in many stores and chains–to not engage.

      This means that the money you spend honestly is being thwarted by those who steal. The stores may end up in bankruptcy and shutting down because of these dishonest johns making a mockery of the process of earning and spending for their own greed and eventual doom.

      Stay with me now, because we are going to go to the lectern in front of the church for a few minutes to make a point.

      One of the Ten Commandments specifies not to steal. Okay, you think, this means that the folks who rob the store are in big trouble from On High. It’s worse than that. Because these people are absconding with large value items not for their own use, but to pad their pockets with tax-free income. They will put their pilfered products on the market in back-alley thrifty retailers, street corner vendors or through private commerce. Every cent they make will be profit because they only used gas funds on the getaway car to get the stuff.

      So what, you ask?

      Using an example made famous by late comedian George Carlin, let’s dig deep here and see where this path goes. First, the ringleader decides, “I’m going to go to (store) and nab some stuff.” They then employ assistants to help them with the heist, so now you have the ringleader who has concocted a sin, and a few others committing the same sin. They plan out the heist, which is a sin. They go to the place and bring paraphernalia to commit the actual sin. They make it out of the store, unhindered, with their ill-gotten merchandise, and the sins keep piling up. They now divide the spoils among themselves (another sin), send it off for resale (another sin) and collect their cuts (ad nauseum).

      But wait, there’s more.

      The people stocking and repricing it are sinning. The so-called innocent consumers buying the stuff are also sinning. If you’re buying a $200 item on a street corner for $80, you must know something is wrong with how that item is sitting in front of you; if you do it anyway, you’re contributing to that wrong.

      If these thieves can concoct such elaborate processes, they could have a legitimate job that did not have police battering down their doors. Instead, they are bringing the entire system of commerce down, and us with it.

      There is a reason why there are products labeled Good, Better and Best. Your income can determine which you can afford, or your determination can earn you something in a higher price range by saving for it. All products are supposedly monitored for quality, so the lowest-priced version should work well, and the higher- with some minor differences. What’s important is that the product does its job.

      My mother always looked at how car dealers tout the beauty of what their newest model looks like on the outside, but when you’re driving it you can’t see how it looks. You’re more concerned that it will consistently get you where you need to be. With your needs and your wallet in mind, you should find something in a price range for you without resorting to fibbing about how thick your wallet is.

      I don’t feel guilty buying off-label, but I allow for some nice things in my budget, which was why I was in this particular store willing to buy a handful of things for $100. They will last me for months, so the breakdown in actual cost is small.

      The folks who take stuff while I’m buying them will deal with the fallout at some point in their lives. Meanwhile, I do my best to be honest and proud to say I have a receipt.

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    • How Single I Am

      Posted at 3:35 pm by kayewer, on July 6, 2024

      I was at a July 4th party, and it was a fun event. We ate, drank and watched fireworks. In the past I always put in an appearance but didn’t overstay my welcome. This time I went to the party and stayed until it started breaking up after 11 PM, which makes me officially a partygoer. Anything after 10 o’clock is considered eligible.

      For years I eschewed social events, mostly due to a combination of the way people respond to newcomers like me, and my own self-doubt. As a bullying survivor who has spent a long adult life still fighting to overcome prejudices on others’ sides and learned avoidance behavior on my own, it’s not easy to take those steps outside the sanctuary of home. More so now than ever before, because we have spent years in isolation and some of us are not going back to anything resembling a workplace environment to cultivate those social vines that keep the plant thriving.

      For most of the time during this party, I was at the table with some of the ladies closer to my age or older than me. As I listened to their stories, recollections and humorous side notes, I began to feel the familiar pangs of outsider guilt begin to overcome me. I kept quiet and observed so as not to ruin the give and take of the conversation, but I quickly realized that, as usual, I didn’t have much in common with the rest of the folks at the table.

      These were women whose histories included long-lived marriages with overseas vacations and memories of children and grandchildren (and their marriages), along with some folks damaged by multiple marriages and divorces, or stranded in the wasteland of widowhood.

      The not-by choice single women who were living in elderly communities spoke of actually being hit upon by the widowers and bachelors there. This is something I’m not used to. For a second I remembered a scene in the movie Jaws in which fisherman Quint and scientist Hooper compared scars on their bodies, as the two of them were into sharks and had wounds to prove it. The third man out, police chief Brody, only had an appendix scar, considered it for a moment, then chose not to mention it. At that moment I thought, gee, I can’t get a guy to hit on me for any reason, but kept it to myself.

      They talked of their adult children’s latest job successes and recent trips to exotic places. The best I could do was say I had never been to those destinations and keep listening. How does one just pack up and go to faraway Jibbip? How does one who doesn’t have kids or a spouse go about it? How do you survive going on a trip with a spouse and kids?

      Anyway, so I was there with the other ladies, some of whom had a whole third of a century of life more than I, discussing the best novels they’ve read (and that I’ve never heard of). I’m glad that retirement will afford me the chance to read these books. Unfortunately I probably won’t be able to discuss them with anybody who has also read them by that time, unless those recommending them can be there by the time I catch up.

      When is a person supposed to work, eat, read the books everybody else reads, work out at the gym and get a healthy amount of sleep? I don’t believe it’s possible. I have given up a lot of my reading in order to work on my novel series, and television is an occasional luxury turned on mostly for the background noise while I work from home in what amounts to solitary confinement with benefits.

      Don’t get me wrong: the party was a fun time, and I wouldn’t have missed it for the world. Sitting there in what was, to me, an entire world I will never be part of, at least gave me an opportunity to learn what is happening out there. Sometimes knowing the possibilities is enough to get one through the endless highway of single isolationism.

      That and some good food and fireworks.

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    • On the House Front

      Posted at 3:17 pm by kayewer, on June 29, 2024

      For most people it’s important to have the front door to the home be inviting and attractive. It doesn’t matter if your front door is to a house or apartment, since it represents the first impression of where you live or who you are.

      Many of today’s homes have accessories such as plants, flags or signage such as a vertical “Welcome” wooden sign (or, for those who like privacy, “No solicitation”). The doormat may say “Welcome” or “Go Away,” depending on the openness of the owners. Some verbiage may indicate the home has pets or doesn’t welcome footwear inside. Plants may be hanging vines or fake greenery. Flags may support a cause or simply pay homage to the country.

      I recently added a goose to my front step.

      Those of us of a certain age have probably received catalogs from Miles Kimball. That place has everything for the homeowner who likes to be practical, colorful or well-stocked. The catalog has been home to a large plastic goose decoration for a long time, and I finally caved in and bought one.

      The decoration apparently has Midwestern origins, and has grown into a world of its own, called Gaggleville. You can find it easily online. Go ahead, and invite the kids. Then be sure to come back here for the rest of the story.

      Instead of the pink flamingoes of many home fronts, the porch goose (originally made of concrete) could stand up to the abusive weather such as high winds, rain and snow. They didn’t tip over, spin or fly off like a cow in a twister.

      The modern version is a lightweight blow mold and designed to be filled with sand. I went to the hardware store and had to sheepishly explain to the employee what I needed. The bag of sand weighed about the same as a fourth grader, but I managed to haul the bag home and begin the task of filling my new front step mascot with the stuff, then set it up in front of the door as a happy-go-lucky greeter that says “Welcome” and not “Go Away.” No vertical signage needed.

      Also unique compared to a garden gnome.

      In addition, the goose has a personality and requires costumes. I ordered a few varieties to make the occasions stand out, such as a raincoat, a patriotic suit for federal holidays, and a touristy outfit for summer. We’ll see how these hold up under the summer heat and pounding winds of a typical Eastern rainy season.

      I have decided not to assign a gender to my goose, allowing the little feathered friend to be a neutral symbol of lighthearted joy, as well as a tribute to one of the simpler signs of capitalism applied in a positive way. Nobody can fault a simple goose dressed up like a zinc-nosed tourist, right?

      Maybe I made the decision because it’s still Pride Month? Not sure.

      The goose sits in the opposite corner from where my door opens, so there is plenty of room to shine and no interference with comings and goings. My new porch goose will simply stand tall and look happy as can be in any kind of weather.

      Oh gee, I just realized it’s not a Canada goose. I may need to find it a winter coat!

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    • It’s a Feet

      Posted at 3:46 pm by kayewer, on June 22, 2024

      Do we truly take the time to appreciate our feet? If we were to take a deep dive into the fascinating world of pedal lore (“pedal” being the technical term for those floor-hugging appendages), we might find some interesting facts are to be found.

      If you’re a regular reader, you may be wondering where I’m going with this topic. There is something here for everybody, I assure you.

      Let’s go over some quick but boring stuff first: the word “foot” has old English, German, Saxon and other European roots. The foot itself contains 26 bones and 33 joints, and on average a male foot is about 26.3 cm long (or 10 1/3 inches). The most common fetish is that for the human foot.

      The foot takes on the task of helping us walk. They take on our weight as we locomote through life. We buy shoes to make them comfortable. Some women, howe3ver, endure discomfort to buy shoes that simply look good but cause immeasurable pain. Not me. I prefer comfort, but there are plenty of styles out there to flatter any foot and wallet.

      We also protect our feet with socks and hosiery, and we have beauticians trim and polish our toenails. At least some of us do. I have never indulged in a mani-pedi, but I did have a manicure. Just one. Made me too self-conscious about damage (I felt self-conscious about bowling with them) to return for more.

      Occasionally a minor change to the footwear routine can alter how our feet work for us. Last year I went to the shore with my comfortable sandals, but one pair turned on me and subjected me to a huge blister, topping it off with savaged ankles. I never saw it coming; nothing happened back at home. But isn’t that the way of things, to suddenly not work after constant reliability.

      This year I went to the shore with different sandals and back-up hosiery as well as bandages for any emergency. At least my tootsies didn’t disappoint. The straps which had been worry-free for ages suddenly decided to cut into the tops of my toes, leaving me with cuts in three places.

      How did I discover this? I took the sandals off at the edge of the tide before dipping my feet in the water. Nothing like the icy, and salty, Atlantic Ocean to jolt the senses when washing over open wounds and cause an immediate reaction. Fortunately I was facing into the roar of the waves, so nobody heard my inhuman howl of discomfort.

      When your feet hurt, you’re in for some serious inconvenience. The ancient specialists in torture knew this well, with such brutal devices as bamboo splinters under the toenails, crippling with blows and piercing implements, or having the feet set upon by insects or rodents.

      In Japan, women endured a painful tradition of foot binding, disfiguring the foot to make it smaller and more appealing by societal standards. That is a Cinderella story, indeed! Remember that in the original fairy tale, the evil stepsisters mangled their own feet hoping to fit into a slipper. I guess poor Ella had a rare shoe size in those days. And shoes weren’t customized for wide or narrow feet.

      Our oldest folk might recall that for a while, shoes used to be sized by length and by the heel (as well as the foot) width. This practice went away some time ago. Still, shopping for shoes is a task which takes time and patience to be done correctly. Shoe stores still exist which measure your feet (in the US, with the always intriguing Brannock device) to give you the best fit, so pain and discomfort should be nearly zero.

      Life, of course, puts our feet through some torture every day, anyway.

      I may never win the battle of shore feet, but I’m sure going to keep trying. Now I simply need to give my cuts time to heel. . . .heal. Meanwhile, I will toe. . . .tow the mark.

      Told you there would be something for everybody. Even bad jokes. But no footnotes.

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    • Con Graduations

      Posted at 5:03 pm by kayewer, on June 15, 2024

      The month of June is graduation season for high schools. The parents of these newly minted young adults are usually happy that twelve years of education (not to mention day care and pre-k) is over. Their sons and daughters likely have driver licenses and a more cemented sense of self, ready to take on secondary studies at college or specialty trade schools away from the home environment.

      The big question is how much today’s graduates really know. Some say that today’s teenagers are more educated in deception than decimals. They leave senior year carrying a phone filled with meaningless babble and a mind still devoid of basic knowledge. Gone are the basics of home economics and auto shop, replaced by test-centric instruction on how to answer mandated examinations designed to actually measure student knowledge.

      Nine out of ten students pass the time engaged in their cell phones, according to recent studies. Also, less than 20% of teens admit to reading books, choosing social media instead. Cursive writing is becoming lost in the maze of other more exciting (and less useful) courses. Job applicants do not come into the workforce with a signature; in fact, many have had no need to use a writing implement in years and don’t know how to write by hand.

      Social media, in the meantime, has become a wasteland of poor grammar, spelling and punctuation, as well as a dumping ground for questions which should have been answered over twelve years of learning. We shake our heads every time somebody of a certain younger age brings up flat earth theory or a historical event which they believe didn’t truly happen.

      These are the future of our world, charged with bringing up the next generations and caring for the older ones that are dying out, such as the World War II veterans who are leaving us faster each day as they age into their late 90s.

      Why bring up paragraph after paragraph of doom and gloom? Because it is a warning that, particularly in the past decade, we have failed our children. We need to make the unpopular decision and not relegate schoolwork to test prep, and instead put experienced instructors with specialist credentials in front of the classroom to prepare these generations for fixing what is wrong and righting what has gone askew.

      They can’t do that if they can’t read their own diploma.

      Teachers also need support from their boards of education, and funding to place resources in their hands. Parents must work in cooperation with the faculty, rather than find reasons to thwart their efforts.

      Life is like that. You must sometimes take the way that people don’t like but need to endure for the sake of the future and our collective good.

      How we start that or get those who have already been affected up to speed would be difficult, but our colleges may be able to help repair the rips in the educational fabric by giving incoming classes some mandatory refresher courses which require work that is witnessed in real time and not produced with AI or other cheating resources.

      Good luck with it, class of 2024.

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    • Time for Summer Random Thoughts

      Posted at 3:53 pm by kayewer, on June 8, 2024

      This week I went to vote in the primary. One is required to vote party in the state primary, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible to make a difference. The ballot included some regular gung-ho party choices, along with some new angles on party ethics from new voices. The ballots were paper and considered a much more secure way to vote. I was declared the twenty-first person to come in that day. We’re talking late afternoon with polls scheduled to close within little more than an hour. It made me feel like nobody cared about the outcome, and it does matter.

          2. Over last weekend, a town held their annual festival, with a wonderful drone show scheduled for the evening. Before it got started, however, gangs of teenagers, many brought in by car by parent drivers, broke out in massive fights. The show was cut short due to the issues caused by the teens, many of whom hid behind hoodies. A crowd destroyed a supermarket in town. A horse was allegedly assaulted. Not a sign or banner indicating a cause for which this was happening was ever raised. These are the future of society, unfortunately. Unruly and uncivilized, who would destroy their own town for fun. Sad, indeed.

          3. I posted a question (yes, we went over this last week) on social media about the famous painting by Michelangelo of the creation of Adam. The painting supposedly details the moment before God imparts life to the first man on our planet, with inches of air separating a holy finger from touching that of the mortal. It occurred to me that, if Adam wasn’t alive yet, how could he raise his hand to touch that of God? Nobody responded. As with many things that force a different train of thought, folks either go silent or lash out in various directions unrelated to the original inquiry. Michelangelo isn’t available for comment.

          4. The issue of handling my denim jeans came up this week. I had taken advantage of a great sale and bought three pairs. They specify to wash before wearing, which I dutifully did, and one pair need to be hemmed (even with the expense of a tailor, the deal was a great one). Some experts are saying not to wash jeans regularly. One expert says a stint in the freezer can refresh your favorite jeans between washings, which are recommended every six weeks or when confronted with an odor. If you wear them less frequently, fewer washings are your reward. They should be laundered in cold water and treated like delicates to prevent too much abuse in the machine’s cycling.

          5. A new spider invaded the news this week, because it is spreading into all parts of the country. Known as the Joro spider, it is a long-legged and colorful variety that feeds primarily on insects. It moves from place to place by creating web threads into the wind and “ballooning” like a person using a horizontal parachute. It does possess venom, but the creature is not designed and reluctant to bite us (its mouth parts are unlikely to pierce skin) and is harmless to humans and pets (except possibly those sensitive to stings). The media has been playing up the “venomous” part of the story, but their contribution to pest control by devouring insects make it less of an inconvenience.

          6. Among the many shows signing off during the summer, the host of “Wheel of Fortune,” Pat Sajak, retired on June 7 after decades of entertaining game show enthusiasts by announcing letters, cash totals and prizes. His final words on the show were sincere, laid-back and filled with gratitude for one of the most unusual jobs in the world. Vanna White will continue to work on the show with new cohost Ryan Seacrest starting in the fall, and fans of Sajak can watch reruns all summer. Still, it won’t be the same show without him. Happy retirement, Pat.

          7. My favorite vegetable is peas, but for health reasons I’m not supposed to eat them. However, I see that I can eat chickpeas. I suppose this means the others are dude peas.

          So much for this week. Dads and grads will be the subjects of the next week or two, then it’s the official start of summer. Hope it’s safe and wonderful for everybody.

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        1. The Unasked Questions

          Posted at 3:32 pm by kayewer, on June 1, 2024

          It’s a curiosity of life that, at some point in our lives, we go from asking questions to avoiding them. As we begin to use our gift of speech in early childhood, we point and ask, “What is that?” As we grow we start asking about deeper subjects such as why this is so and that is not so. Then, without warning, we become so set in what we feel we need to know that we stop asking anything. We also tend to shut ourselves off from answering other people’s questions.

          Anybody who uses social media can tell you that asking questions can cause the equivalent of a virtual battle. The words online are worse than hearing insults in the junior high gym locker room, and even when somebody speaks the truth, the gaslighting is incredibly volatile.

          As for displays of any support or pride in daily life, you may find yourself with hate speech spray painted on your house, or your pro-whatever flag ripped to pieces.

          To celebrate Pride Month–which is supposed to be a 30-day period to employ the ethics of allowing people to be what they feel is best for them–our town provided merchandise last year at the weekly farm markets (and carried over to this year). Some unfortunate purchasers did not see their signs displayed for long, as passersby would dismantle or even steal them. As if not having a symbol displayed is going to make what it stands for disappear.

          So my question is this: what difference does Pride Month make if you don’t celebrate it? You may celebrate Hanukkah and not Christmas or vice versa, and you may be of a religion that doesn’t celebrate birthdays while your neighbor does. Yet the world continues to turn 24 hours at a time without any issues. LGBTQ people have existed since time immemorial; we just call it LGBTQ these days.

          Another example: a video I watched recently featured a woman who suffered from an infection after getting a body piercing. I dared to ask what, in general, is the reason a person decides to get metal put through some part of their bodies, and you would have thought I broke a societal taboo. Some of the responses that blasted into my inbox said, “because it’s my body and I can,” or “because I like to.” Some of the most notorious criminals committed their acts because they chose to or liked to as well, but it doesn’t answer the truth behind such a decision.

          For example, I ordered a dozen sandal foot knee high pairs of hosiery. Even though many people who wear sandals choose not to put on any stockings or socks, I prefer the additional barrier of fabric between my now exposed toes and the outside world. The pavements and parking lots are full of leftover animal droppings, bugs, chemicals, human spittle and countless other pathogens that I want to keep off my flesh. That is the longer answer I was hoping to receive regarding piercings, since I have zero.

          Instead of a logical explanation of the process by which a person decides to impale their skin with clunky bits of (supposed) decoration, I actually received a reply questioning my mental capabilities (and not from one licensed to make such accusations). I also received a few smatterings of “IYKYK” (if you know, you know) copout responses peppered in to make the entire adventure distasteful.

          Years ago, after an item appeared about a particular doctor performing invasions of patients’ privacy (in short, think examining an arm when the problem is in the leg), I posed a question in a forum asking why we are not better informing our young adults about their bodies and what each part does, to inform them against acquiescing to such actions. The respondents seemed ready to burn me at the stake, though not one of them would openly come out and say they feel that human beings should remain ignorant of their own bodies, I was condemned for bringing up the notion of education.

          Will I stop asking questions? Never. I cannot live in a world of ignorance or denial. If I learn something useful, I pass it on. If I learn something unusual about a person I’ve known for some time, I can let it be: it never mattered before I learned it, so what’s the difference now?

          And if I’m a geek for wearing hosiery with my sandals, I’m letting the geek flag fly.

          Along with my Pride Week flag. And the American flag.

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