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  • Who the Heck is Kayewer?
  • Monthly Archives: February 2021

    • Attack of the Killer Bigots

      Posted at 3:09 pm by kayewer, on February 27, 2021

      Ethnic violence has taken an unusual turn since the presidential administration turnover, and it’s uncertain if the issue is slowly going away and a few stubborn people don’t want that, or it’s still the same but we’re not being reminded of it daily like we used to. Since it’s the end of Black History Month for another year, the media have been focusing on how the Black population struggled to be recognized as human in an inhumane world, but next to those historical informational snippets were news articles about random attacks on Asians. It seems our former president’s words about the origins of the current pestilence* have implanted a mental seed of fear and loathing among the misinformed and ignorant, and these folks seem to have taken to handling their frustration by proxy, assaulting random persons to make their point.

      Their point appears to be, “I’m not happy about the disease, and somebody who may not even remotely be related to you may have been responsible, so you take this punch in the face or chair smashed onto your torso and tell them I sent you, so maybe they will just go off and die somewhere and pay the price for all this death and suffering.”

      Life doesn’t work that way for anybody, so nobody has a right to act this way. It may not have been a person who started the disease, for all we know: it’s possible that an animal had something that caused the disease in a random person by accident. Biological anomalies frequently start because some organism, somewhere, was in the wrong place at the wrong time. Unfortunately radical scared people don’t stop to think about possibilities or chaos or randomness; they’re just primed to react strongly to any disruption in their perceived utopian routine.

      I’m glad they weren’t around in the time of the dinosaurs: they would’ve been trying to punch out comets because they were coming around to wipe out the lifeforms on our infant Earth. They would have been beating up anybody of Spanish origin back in 1918, when the so-called “Spanish Flu” came around.

      Funny thing is, we people who don’t believe in beating up people don’t go looking for these folks to beat them up. In fact, it would be hard to figure out who to look for. They have eyes and ears, limbs and joints, they wear clothes. . . .how scary is that? They look like us, but we are not them! Maybe that’s the problem: on the outside maybe it’s hard to tell who is who. A radical could be beating the whoopie out of somebody who is not at all part of the group on whom they are directing their anger, so we could make the same mistake while seeking them out.

      Of course, those folks who stormed Washington back in January also looked like the rest of us.

      Except their curdled, evil souls were showing.

      When you look into people’s eyes while they are headed out to a task related to battle or conflict, the look tends to be one of fear tempered by a resolute purpose. You’re worried about doing it, but you feel you have to. The “it’s me or them” mindset can be misdirected by the wrong information, and that is what’s going on here with Asian targeting. The current disease didn’t start with an Asian: it started with a germ that happened to be picked up and spread in Asia; it could just as easily have originated here in the United States or anyplace else on earth.

      Who or what started it cannot be eradicated by assaulting somebody and saying, “There, that puts my two cents’ worth in,” but it can be a battle won by helping each other and not discounting any one person’s contribution to the good of the planet.

      If you don’t want to do good, please sit down and shut up.

      *(Because some online filters are sensitive to terminology, I am assuming that you know to what current disease I am referring without naming it and risking censure.)

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    • Photo Finished

      Posted at 4:42 pm by kayewer, on February 20, 2021

      I registered for a photography course online, but I ran into the same problem many online students face: people who are too advanced to take the course but do so to show off how advanced they are, and make the others feel bad about their lack of skill. You know the type of people I mean; the proficient folks who hang around in beginner environments because they prefer not to move onward to other pursuits in which they would be at a disadvantage.

      It’s annoying to post a simple shot for critique and then see another photo which has been enhanced and corrected and given a flowery watermark signature chosen by the photographer. Fine for you, buddy, but I’m not there yet: I’m still figuring out what settings work best.

      The other students have commented on this problem, but since everybody paid the same for the class, it’s unlikely anybody will be able to determine and filter out the samples of work from people who ought to be elsewhere in the online school and not wasting their money to review what they already know.

      It’s been some time since I posted, and yet I still want to finish the course. Even when I followed the rules of posting–comment on others’ work and be positive, for example–sometimes it feels like the work I’ve done is for nothing. The advanced folks make the beginners feel bad, and limited feedback provides limited opportunities for growth.

      A true artist knows the struggles of others and respects their efforts. It’s hard enough to lug around a heavy piece of equipment hanging from one’s neck and try to review the steps needed to compose a shot, set it up and actually take the photo. Some are more adept at this, or in the case of the usurpers, they may have much more practice.

      So I’m stuck at a crossroad with my possible future hobby. I suppose it would be worthwhile to take a few days and devote them to just finishing up the assignments and letting go the reluctance. What I don’t want to do is put my camera away and not use it. A few opportunities will come up soon to go out and shoot pictures, and I want to be ready. Even if I don’t put a signature watermark on my work, I’ll enjoy seeing what comes from my efforts. And I can keep it real, with no funny stuff, because I haven’t taken editing yet, and need not be ashamed to say so.

      Say cheese! The rest of you say “Cheat!”

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    • Hearts and Furors

      Posted at 3:00 pm by kayewer, on February 13, 2021

      I’m a romantic type, but it can be a lonely pursuit. Let’s face the fact that love isn’t what it used to be. Actually it’s more confusing and dangerous now than ever. In the good old days, people married for love, but some did it out of urgency (think shotgun weddings) or convenience (same, without the weaponry), and managed to tolerate the idea. Sometimes people would fall in love at last that way. How we treat each other is a big part on how we find friendship, companionship or love.

      Now it can be dangerous not only to fall in love but to break up. People with more than one divorce are not a rarity, and neither are people in jail for injuring, or even killing, somebody with whom they broke up. If there are billions of people on this planet, surely there are a handful who may be a mate for somebody, so one divorce or breakup–or two– should not mean the end of the world.

      Some of us out there are perpetually single, like me, with no reason or solution in sight. While watching the parade of friends who are either married for decades or going through ex-husband number whatever, I bear witness to the melodrama without the benefit of experience. On reality shows I see some people who, on a simply superficial level, might not be considered good candidates for finding love, yet they do. People who are considered beautiful have no problem.

      So what’s my problem? I may never know. Even while we are integrating people on the fringes of society into the massive flock of the world population, some folks are still outliers. I’m glad to have lived to see society taking a closer look at what makes us who we are, and how silly it can be to complain about people minding their own business with whom they love, as long as it’s not truly criminal or harmful. I’m glad to see bullying being addressed and acted upon. It’s also good that we punish the behavior to get better people out of those who make mistakes. We can admit when the wrong people have been sent to prison, and stand up when somebody fails to exercise common sense, rescuing the beaten and downtrodden.

      We still have miles to go on the social journey to a better understanding of love and responsibility. We are all flawed, even to a tiny degree, so we should be able to discuss the bad parts of ourselves and laud the good parts. Instead of taking down a statue, make sure the placard describes the flaws as well as the good deeds. History should tell the truth, as our present should.

      When it comes to helping people find friendship, companionship or love, it helps to know where the flaws lie. Sometimes the smallest of changes can bring a lifetime of satisfaction. We tend to clam up when it comes to what is wrong with us. We would rather whisper in gossip groups than face somebody with what could help them become stronger. That’s something we could all work on. I will consider myself a work in progress until I die, no matter with whom I share it or if I go alone.

      So another Valentine’s Day will go through its cycle of candy and flowers and such for a lot of people. Have some for me.

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    • Human Nature

      Posted at 3:05 pm by kayewer, on February 6, 2021

      Are you humane? Calm? Balanced? When faced with any type of interruption to your life, do you take a breath and pause before you speak or act? Can you summon a calm, neutral state and not add more boiling water to the stew pot of chaos?

      If so, I’d like to get to know you. When I go to work, I’d like you as a customer. Anybody who works in customer service would like to have you as a customer, or outside of work you would make a decent acquaintance. Right now pleasant people can be hard to find, because tempers are short and it seems that decision making skills are lacking. Sure there is a lot of stress out there, and it will probably be there for a while, but our behavior is still under our control even if disease and difficulties are not.

      This week seemed filled with nastiness from people who could have been more mature or restrained in their behaviors but chose not to. One that really stood out was irksome from the start, because the person began the interaction by making snarky remarks about what they perceived to be shortcomings. You know the type; they begin with a “you people” speech and launch into a list of grievances about how they feel wronged, followed by how everybody else caused the problem, ending with either an amazing expectation or a threat to go to the news media or somebody of authority to destroy the perceived wrong-doers’ lives.

      They tend to craft a clever phrase or two about how “yeah, you really did a great job for me,” when they really feel you did nothing. Oftentimes everything the person needed to not have to go to all that trouble is accessible, because our society has made most things more easy to locate than before.

      What it boiled down to was that all this person had to do was ask.

      Imagine that! They could have saved the time, effort and bile involved in preparing such a heated argument by simply asking one question. That and the fact that a negative attitude is bad for your health should be sufficient to make most people stop before they have a tantrum. Unfortunately I met more toddlers trapped in adult bodies this week than I want to deal with the rest of the year. And it’s only February.

      Since I’ve been watching Cesar Milan and his incredible ability to read dogs, plus Jackson Galaxy’s methods with cats, I’ve learned that calmness is the key to resolving many issues. The best way to work with pets, it seems, is to set the example, such as showing your dog that you are calm, so they should also be calm. I have practiced Cesar’s technique on a friend’s dog; I took a moment to relax before approaching because the dog was in the passenger seat of the car and might have leapt out the window if overexcited, being prone as he is to being a bit hyper. He stayed totally chilled out and sat down in the car seat while the humans resumed talking. It does work.

      Unfortunately I couldn’t tell the person with the “you people” tirade to chill out, and unfortunately there was a line of similar disgruntled people after that. Wasn’t one of my favorite weeks, but I wait patiently for the person who opens up an interaction with a greeting and a pleasant comment. It can erase a day’s worth of downers.

      So take the time to chill out. Don’t waste your time with long-winded complaints and get your blood pressure up. We’ve got a right to breathe. Slowly. It’s good for all of us.

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