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  • Monthly Archives: June 2018

    • Vacation, All I’ve Never Gotten

      Posted at 12:32 am by kayewer, on June 25, 2018

      You can always tell it’s summer without a calendar, because everybody mysteriously vanishes. Well, maybe not everybody: we still need a certain number of people to be on duty in various professions, so they stay around while the rest of humanity fries their body fat on a beach somewhere. I say kudos to those dedicated people who don’t abandon their jobs for Antigua or cut the week short for a few days in Cancun. I salute you, because I don’t go on vacation either.

      The last time I went on vacation, my family and I rented a place at the shore, and the neighbors downstairs swapped out our cable on us. That was years ago.

      Something happens to people when they go on vacation, probably because they leave the comforts of home at home, yet still feel entitled to them anyplace else they go. If I went to the shore today, I probably would not have problems with cable theft, because everybody watches shows on a stick these days. It’s a great anti-theft idea for summer residences, because nobody can break into your utility box and swap out your stick. I suppose the cost of a beach house today is based upon whether or not the television can accomodate your stick.

      We don’t seem to mind that we go to a vacation home or hotel and subject ourselves to the detritus of hundreds of other people who have done the same things before us. We sleep in beds in which dozens of folks shed their dead skin, ate or drank wine or made whoopie, and we overlook it because we need a place to sleep.  We go to overpriced attractions, eat enough calories that we could starve ourselves for a month, and all for the sake of getting away from it all.

      Yet we strive and struggle to get it all at home, and then when we get it all, we go on vacation to get away from it.

      In other countries they have holidays, which are really multi-day or -week excursions away from work. Businesses shut down for holiday, and everybody meets up at some sun-soaked destination to enjoy time away from it all. With their coworkers.

      In fact, I just saw on CBS today that some companies have a Friday holiday: workers simply put in extra hours Monday through Thursday, then the place shuts down and everybody takes Friday off.

      I hate places that shut down on weekends. Correction: I hate the fact that I have always worked in places that do not shut down on weekends, so rather than curse myself–which is fruitless-I hate them.

      Lots of folks look forward to retirement, which is supposed to be one long vacation. Of course one is older and less spry to enjoy some vacations which are better enjoyed in youth, but still we look forward to getting away from it all someday.

      After retirement comes the real getaway from it all, where hotel beds don’t matter anyway.

       

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    • Let Life Commence

      Posted at 1:54 am by kayewer, on June 17, 2018

      I can’t help feeling a bit nostalgic, because this is an anniversary year for me, and I just learned that high school commencement for the class of 2018 is coming this week, which brings back a lot of memories. Sure there was the cardboard pizza in the cafeteria, the lockers that never held enough, the ancient textbooks from Aristotle’s reject pile, but how much about high school graduation has really changed?

      It’s still a passage based on a collection of policies and rules which have nothing to do with real life: I remember the receipt of my diploma depended upon my ability to find and turn in my concert band bow tie (which I never missed). There were points and GPA calculations and fittings for gowns which still didn’t fit, and I don’t think even the last month of the semester amounted to anything. It’s the law and we all followed along with resigned obedience.

      The valedictorian may not have the greatest command of English (having concentrated on science major courses), and the person at the bottom of the class ranking may well become the greatest inventor since the guy who created the Salad Shooter®, or even written the speech for the valedictorian. With the exception of whomever teaches summer school (if that is still a thing), the building will be emptied for about two months and change, and it starts all over again in September.

      After graduation, I sat on the front steps of our home with my parents and inhaled the breath of freedom from school basics, looking forward to night classes in the fall at Rutgers. The next day I started my job. I have never seen 99 percent of my classmates since then. Some of them disappeared and we never did find them for any reunions over the years. We are such a mobile society that we don’t have our fellow students to be nostalgic with anymore.

      Well, for what it’s worth, below is my real senior class picture, taken on graduation day after having my braces removed. I like it, because I like to look back and think that high school offered the promise of a future to smile about.

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    • The End of It All

      Posted at 1:32 am by kayewer, on June 10, 2018

      After noted chef Anthony Bourdain and designer Kate Spade committed suicide in the same week, the subject of ending one’s own life prematurely became a major topic. In times of societal polarity or change, public emotions tend to be edgier than usual, and not surprisingly the suicide rate goes up. At some point in our lives, we may say something like, “I wish I were dead right now,” when we don’t mean it, but some do.

      Death does end everything. That is what some people want: an end to it all. When the idea of being forced to exist in a way contrary to one’s nature is unbearable, the choices are limited. One can remove the source of the forced suffering–either the thing itself or the person causing it, if possible–run away from it, regroup and try to change the situation if possible, or die so it is no longer a problem.

      Suffering seems to be more a man-made condition than a divine or natural one, so it is up to man to resolve it. When it comes to people who cause suffering, we are more prone to not actively dealing with the issue because, after all, unless you walk in somebody’s shoes, do you feel you have the right to judge somebody’s actions? Better to give a chronic offender a chance to change his ways. That may be how abusive clerics were sent to other parishes: maybe the right place would eliminate the problem. It didn’t work very well. Schools expel bullies and they end up going to other schools, which doesn’t always end the problem if nobody punishes the behavior to redeem the person.

      Of course it’s possible to go into a War and Peace-sized dialogue about why suffering causes suicide. The issue is how much pain a person can endure before breaking, and we often push the needle on the tolerance meter by making irresponsible choices which may make our lives easier but others’ worse. Look at all the electronic waste in India right now; a world of mercury poisoning and hazardous computer materials piling up around a nation of poor folk just because we don’t want to handle it. I recently read that China is turning down some of our cardboard waste because those lovely Amazon boxes are overwhelming the recycling efforts there, and values are down.

      The suicidal are tired of pursuing happiness and are looking for peace instead. We need to open up to new ideas and stop saying “not me” or NIMBY (“not in my back yard”) and make the world our yard where we can throw a big social get-together and make some changes to really change the way we see our lives. The glass is not half empty or half full: it has some water in it, and that is a start to making things better.

      (If you or somebody you know has thoughts of suicide, the Suicide Prevention Hotline is 1-800-273-8255 and is available 24 hours a day).

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    • Screwed? Nailed It!

      Posted at 1:51 am by kayewer, on June 3, 2018

      I love my car, but I have not had a good relationship with the tires lately. In my lifetime I have had a flat or two, but I just had two in one week, all because of little bits of construction debris I drove over in total ignorance. Guys, pick up your stuff before you leave: you never know where it might go. If not my tire, somebody’s foot.

      What you see in the photo represents my week in tread dread. On Sunday, I hopped into my car to drive down the road to the pharmacy, when my car’s dashboard diagnostic system told me I had low tire tread, so I dutifully drove up another road to the service station, where the tech on duty found the screw on the right: believe it or not, that was not the culprit, as it entered the tire at an angle. The little dude on the left did the deed. Fortunately I was one day short of the holiday (though I could’ve just called AAA), so I was able to get it fixed right away. My guess is that I drove over Laurel and Hardy when I picked up dinner on Saturday night, and the leak happened–albeit slowly, because the damage was probably between the wheel and driveway–overnight. So the tech did a plug, and no aftereffects came up.

      This morning, the second low tire message appeared involving the same tire. How likely is that to happen? Another plug job. I’m wondering now if I have a cursed tire. I had a patch put on one of the tires the last flat I had, and I know my dealer regularly rotates my tires, so I wonder if this is the same one. Got a one in four shot that it is. Next time I go in, I will ask them to check for a tire with a patch and two plugs.

      And what does one do with a cursed tire? Buy three new ones, and the one free does the exorcism.

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