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  • Monthly Archives: May 2013

    • That New Car Smell

      Posted at 2:09 am by kayewer, on May 26, 2013

      A friend just got a new car. A NEW new car, not just a car that is new to her. The last vehicle she owned was a late model Chevy Cavalier with an engine that just did quit. So she went car shopping and came up with a fresh model Toyota. She was thrilled to have a car that smelled new, rather than a used (or what the industry calls “pre-owned”) one that needed a few doses of heavy duty concentrated scent in a can to make it inoffensive to the nose.

      I got a new car awhile ago, so it was fun to watch her in the thralls of newbie-itis. She popped the trunk for the first time, used the passenger side power window for the first time (I did that, to her amazement), and made her first in-dash phone call to me. I was honored. Like I did before her, she had her first car with a power remote lock, though she beat me to getting a car with a CD player by years.

      She showed me the instrument panel, the details in the trim (what the industry now calls “appointments”) and how quiet the drive is. We parked at the mall out in no-man’s land to prolong the wait for that inevitable first ding. I did that, too, for seven months: I parked at the edge of the lot and walked for a full extra minute to get to work, but it did nothing for my waistline.

      The trunk was devoid of any clutter, which I know lasts until the first bad weather or big shopping trip comes along. Bad weather brings out a collection of about a dozen umbrellas, none of which gets used because they are in the trunk where nobody can reach them without getting out of the car and getting wet in the process of retrieving them. In the winter there will be a scraper and brush which won’t be accessible at the first snow because the trunk will be iced shut. In the front of the car, the cup holders will be laced with coffee stains soon, and the floor mats will contain outdoor debris and, in my case, lots of shedding hair. The seats of most woven fabric interior cars tend to pull on hair, and I lose a few every week in my vehicle (I’m blond, so they show), so I know that my friends have seats and floors with hair in them as well. Those with dogs end up with dog hair, too.

      My friend is still getting comfortable with the mechanics and logistics of the new car. Figuring out how far to pull forward in a parking spot is a challenge for a few days, as is backing up. The car did not come with bells and whistles like a back-up camera. A co-worker has one of those, and he smiles everytime he backs up his car. I just use the rear view mirror and go very slowly.

      My car isn’t old by any means, but new cars bring out that feeling of nostalgia about the jalopies we used to drive and the next one we plan to get. But not until the engine quits, at least for now.

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    • Drive Time Blues

      Posted at 1:50 am by kayewer, on May 26, 2013

      Those of us who drive long distances to get to work every day probably know the feeling I’ve been having lately: sheer boredom.  After years of taking the same freeway, I know every mile marker (visible and missing but estimated), building and tree and have even begun naming the local wildlife.  It’s the hit of the morning to spot a deer or turkey vulture going about its life in the natural world just beyond the black top.

      I’ve watched trash sit in the same spot and degrade in the sun and snow over a period of months.  I’ve witnessed some amazing feats of driving idiocy and survived to tell about it.  I’ve sat in two-hour traffic tie-ups and left trucks in my dust.  Been there, will keep doing that until I retire.

      The car came with Sirius/XM(R) satellite radio, and I’ve grown fond of listening to my favorite stations.  The one I enjoy most is Met Opera Radio, with its live broadcasts and archived performances that manage to make the drive seem more like a virtual visit to the opera house.  There is a problem, though: the productions run on a schedule so well fixed in place that, when they repeat a performance, I find myself hearing the same scenes every time I’m in the car at rush hour.  I’m certain I have heard the final act of Der Rosenkavalier at least five times in the two years I’ve had the subscription. The other acts run while I’m in the office.  Well, half a performance is better than no performance at all, I suppose.

      For a change, I’ll move the dial to the Broadway channel and listen to some good show tunes.  Host Seth Rudetsky has gotten me through a few lengthy homebound traffic tie-ups.  Once in a while I turn on Sinatra, but one of his slow tunes can get too relaxing.  All those networks are within a few clicks of each other, ensuring my safety at the wheel as I won’t scroll through eighty channels or more at full speed on the highway.  When there’s a lull in the offerings, or Rosenkavalier is on again, desperation sets in.

      For a change, I bought an audio CD to listen to in my car.  I chose Dr. Phil’s newest self-help book Life Code: The New Rules for Winning in the Real World. It was a great way to do something constructive while tooling down the road and trying to come up with something to replace the drone of the road in my ears.  I’ve listened to it twice through, and I now feel ready to recognize a BAITER (a term for the manipulative people in your life) at twenty paces and keep my well-being in check in the process. In fact, in a moment of pure scientific genius while listening to Dr. Phil behind the wheel, I realized that Emperor Palpatine, the evil overlord in Star Wars, is a textbook BAITER.  I could write a paper on it, but I’m sure somebody with a stronger Jedi mindset and the blessing of a degree in psychology has already done so.

      The point is, this all keeps me awake while I waste hours of my life burning fossil fuel in a metallic wheeled box. I feel the need to keep my mind’s gears turning as fast as those under me.

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    • Day Off Daze

      Posted at 2:32 am by kayewer, on May 19, 2013

      I’m finishing up a vacation week, so I’ll be back next week with a longer post. The forecast is calling for rain most of the week, so I guess my going back to work is making the skies weep for me. It’s going to be busy, so there will be plenty to write about (above and beyond what I already have on my list).

      Stay dry.

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    • Oh Mother

      Posted at 2:12 am by kayewer, on May 12, 2013

      In Job 11, spoken at many funerals, it is said that man (that is, we in general), is born of a woman. That is the undisputed part of it all: we all start with a mother. A man comes into the picture and kickstarts the process of creating what, in nine months, becomes a new life, but women fertilize, carry, deliver and leave that indelible mark of her being in her progeny.

      Every May we stop to think about the woman who brought us into this world, sometimes lovingly, sometimes fleetingly. Job also goes on to say we live a short miserable life. Sure, life is hard, and we all grow up to take our bitter daily pills as, with any luck, we leave the familial nest and set off to make something out of living for ourselves. Our mothers bear us, both in the delivery room and in raising us, or not (some depart the task on purpose or by accident or somebody else’s design, and there are a million other reasons inbetween), but they are a part of us and who we are and become, and how we die.

      For those of us who love and have loved and continue to love our mothers, in life or after their passing, let’s take a moment to thank them. They have earned our love and respect.

      For those who have issues with their mothers for any reason, just remember that just as you make the choice to have the issue, you also can make the choice to change yourself. Mothers and fathers are yesterday’s children, years older but still scarred with the mistakes of their own youth, the evils thrust upon them in their upbringing (whether neglect or too much privilege: think about criminals who claim an abusive past or ridiculously stuck-up rich snobs who don’t know the value of ten cents, and you’ll get the picture) and the methods by which they molded or failed to mold their own lives, bringing their own children into the world to inflict the next generation with the same flaws, or not.

      We all go through that cathartic moment when we realize that adults are flawed. When we come to holidays like Mother’s Day, all those past foibles come to mind and threaten to hurt us. The best of us remember that we have every second of our lives to live past our and our parents’ faults, as well as to amplify and improve the best qualities brought to us because we have grown up. So remember your mother, whether you really know her or not, and bless her, for every moment of your life, part of you is her, for better or for worse. Don’t be that miserable that Job 11 sounds like your biography.

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    • National Back Up Your Work Day

      Posted at 1:44 am by kayewer, on May 5, 2013

      I recently read about a Rutgers student, Jingming Zhang, whose laptop was stolen: on it was his only copy of his graduate thesis. He never backed up data from his computer, and suddenly he was faced with a thesis due and nothing to show for a lengthy project that he sweated blood to complete.

      As a writer, I should know better, but I have also prepared scads of written material and suddenly found myself with a frozen computer and lost the data. BACK UP YOUR DATA, people. Those family photos should be stored in a cloud or some type of separate storage. Your collection of rare tunes? Copy them to a thumb drive or something. Your Great American Novel. Print it out and put it in a fireproof safe.

      I went out and got a portable hard drive with one trillobyte of storage and backed up all my data. Copies are now secured where I hope it will serve me when the time is right.

      I have decided to declare May 9 National Back Up Your Work Day. This Thursday, break out some rewritable CDs and your ticked-off red bird flash drive, or call up a cloud service and get it done.

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