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  • Monthly Archives: June 2012

    • Cleaning Up

      Posted at 2:25 am by kayewer, on June 24, 2012

      We’re a dirty bunch, aren’t we?

      Every day at work, I sit at the same table, and every day it is covered with crumbs and unnamed spills from a previous user’s meal.  Fortunately I bring along some portable bleach wipes, and I’m not above cleaning a table before I eat there.  Besides, the office managers come to eat there, too, and they deserve a clean table.

      We have cleaning staff, but their hands are full with policing horrid bathrooms that can resemble third world prison cesspools on occasion.  Cleaning staff in offices don’t get paid enough to do what they must to restore office bathrooms, pantries and cafeterias to normal.

      The problem is that the cause is people with whom I share a genetic connection, but obviously not the same morals or standards.

      It makes me feel strange to look at a dirty toilet seat or filthy table and think that somebody in my vicinity did it.  Maybe they feel that cleaning their own mess is somebody else’s responsibility, but I am sometimes that somebody else.  Everybody is that somebody else at one time or another.  I suspect that when some people are the somebody else, they just dirty up a different toilet or table.  Shirking responsibility has a domino effect that way, and the job always gets done not by the perpetrator, but by an innocent bystander.

      Taking ownership of one’s own human messes starts when one stops drooling on their bibs and ditches the diaper.  No excuses.

      And don’t get me started on what I call the “useful to trash effect,” in which a food or beverage container, upon emptying, becomes an abhorrent thing which must leave the hands in milliseconds, even if no trash receptacle is around.  You can see it anyplace that has more than ten feet between trash cans.  Finish the soda, drop the cup or bottle or can if a better alternative is just a trifle too far away for you to actually carry the thing there.  What is so uncool about having an empty cup or soda can?  Has anybody ever suffered public flogging because they had an empty plate in their hands?

      Geez we’re a strange bunch of creatures.

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    • Be Dazzled by Bejewelled

      Posted at 2:59 am by kayewer, on June 17, 2012

      I need a twelve step program to overcome game addiction.  Games like “Angry Birds” and “Bejewelled” could well mean sleepless nights and the fall of mankind, but they are so darned fun to play.

      “Bejewelled” involves moving one colorful gem at a time to make a row or column of three of a kind and eliminate them from the board.  If you are lucky, you can match four or five jewels and gain special board clearing skills.  It’s simple and easy to lose track of when you’re on a  train and miss your stop.

      Games like these are fast-paced and don’t involve violence (unless you feel sorry for egg-stealing pigs, in which case you would pass on those teed-off avian cuties, whom you launch at pigs to explode them in revenge).

      The fun offered by “Bejewelled” is intoxicating for me because I like to dabble with jewels that don’t run the risk of theft or falling out of a ring setting.  They may not come in a Tiffany box, but there are rows and rows of them, and as you clear sets of gems, more appear.  If you gain a five-gem group, you can eliminate one set altogether from your board; a “power jewel” enables you to produce a lightning bolt that seeks and destroys in ways even the Emperor in Star Wars couldn’t do.

      Yes sir, you can see I’m hooked.

      “Angry Birds,” on the other hand, requires some aim and ability to launch a slingshot by touch.  I have no aim.  I can’t even throw like a girl.  The birds are rather cute as they arc through the air to smash lumber and bricks to break up the swine defensive front, so even if I don’t win the game, it’s fun to play.

      With these games, they can go on forever for old folks like me.  Kids can probably whiz right through each level with ease.  Besides, they wouldn’t want to know that adults like the games, too.  It’s just our little secret.

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    • Writing Web of Mystery

      Posted at 2:40 am by kayewer, on June 10, 2012

      Dear Writer Magazine:  Unfortunately I cannot take advantage of your kind offer of a special price on my subscription.  I wanted to renew online, as that is the cool thing to do (save a stamp, save a tree).  Since the deadline for the special price was approaching, I figured this would be the easiest way to send you my money.  Unfortunately, you don’t seem to know me.

      I have more than one web address, but neither one worked.  Apparently I have also neglected to record the proper password to access your site.  This means that I can’t even have you send an email to reset my password, because neither email address is recognized by your website.

      At least I know you will contact me again soon, before my subscription actually expires.  If the post office still exists, I’ll mail you a check.

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    • The Bullying Story Continues

      Posted at 2:02 am by kayewer, on June 3, 2012

      Joel Morales, 12 years old from Harlem.  He hanged himself in his apartment.  I read his story in work during lunch and, as so many other bully assisted suicides have done over the years, it broke my heart.  As an adult in the workplace, I steeled myself not to cry and to regain my composure.  Some people might not take kindly to such sympathy and empathy in a business environment.

      Then a bizarre thought came to me:  Joel’s fellow students might prefer that I jump up and down with glee on the table and celebrate, because somebody they decided didn’t belong on this planet was gone, and why should anybody be sad?

      Nowhere in the articles I’ve read does it say that the school grieves for him.  Maybe some students can admit that, even when adults pressured him to tell them that he was being picked on, he didn’t snitch.  He found it hard to talk about.  It is hard to confide in somebody that, even though you are not a terrorist, murderer, child molester or ruling despot, little things can make ordinary people hate you.

      So what was wrong with Joel Morales that he was bullied to death?  He was short, and he was smart.

      I guess that means the kids in the two Harlem schools he attended should only exist if they are tall and dumb?  Not in this world.

      Setting aside my opinions (that maybe those immature classmates should not be promoted to the next grade, or that the teachers should be fired, or the obvious bandage solutions like laws, counseling and more parental responsibility), as my heart protests in my ribcage and my blood pressure inches up and my brain cries out in frustration over bullying cases like this, I wonder what his classmates really have to say?  One did tell authorities that a comment about Joel’s father, who had also died in a suicide, sent the young man over the edge.

      One of the reasons why I didn’t go to see the Bully movie, was that reviews indicated that nobody interviewed actual bullies for the story, but concentrated instead on the victims.

      Recently an anonymous caller to a feedback forum in the Camden, NJ Courier-Post newspaper confessed to being a bully and wanted to apologize for the damage done to past victims.  Reading that, too, made me want to cry.  I ache for the various aspects of the human condition, because I am also human. We all stray from our humanity on occasion, which is why there is bullying and a chance to repent.  The solution to the bullying problem must really come from the perpetrators.  I think it would really be interesting to hear from bullies about why they do what they do. And if being smart is a bad thing, I would even tolerate poor grammar and sentence structure to get the full story.

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